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Okay, so I'm nervous as shit. I got into some burnt toast theory shit... a bad situation led me to getting to know this person.

And we haven't been talking for much, but I'm feeling a spark. I haven't stated anything that explicitly tells her how I feel, not even close, but in getting to know her... I learned she checks many important boxes of mine.

In this corny, dramatic, old-ass comment, I mentioned 5 dating requirements.

And she checks... all of them. It almost feels unbelievable.

It would be long-distance, but at least it's the same country and time zone... I've done way worse, in terms of distance, long-distance relationships before.

Not only is she a communist and a vegan, but she does a lot of activism for both of them. She's very loud and vocal for Palestine, and I love it. Not only do I admire that about her, but it inspires me to do more... whatever I can. I have to be safe here.

And I think that's why I have such little confidence in my rizz now... it feels like the risk is too much.

If I try to rizz up someone that I'm not feeling this much of a vibe with, I can do it more confidently, but this... oh my God... I'm a little scared.

She's so nice and sweet as a person too. I'm taking it slow and easy for now. I'll shoot her a message asking about her day tomorrow.

Just... wish me luck, comrades.

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[–] Flamangoman@leminal.space 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Could you please explain to me the meaning of some burnt toast theory shit? I wish to understand.

[–] Future_Honkey@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

It's just a mindset really; reframing bad things happening, as just things that happen, maybe even good things!

Idea is 'experiences aren't bad, they can be lessons or net positives'. Maybe they saved you from something worse, or are a bridge to new and better.

I got cut off driving the other day, had to use a different exit than i wanted. Got mad a minute cuz I'm human then thought to myself: "maybe i'd have gotten in a wreck going that way"

So, burned toast theory

[–] Flamangoman@leminal.space 4 points 4 days ago

Nice, I like this a lot. Thank you for the explanation, makes sense to me now 🧠

[–] Calmrade@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago

Best of luck comrade.

[–] Awoo@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)
[–] Future_Honkey@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Hell yeah che-si When its scary it's cuz you know it matters! I'm excited for you! Youre gonna kill it today don't be scared koishi-wave

[–] Meltyheartlove@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago