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Are you dependent on your parents at all? (Ex: you are a child, or they give you money to live.) Send it. You don't have to mean it.
Otherwise, do what you want. Don't send one if you don't want to.
A lot of us had hard lives and didn't abuse children. Ultimately, we are responsible for our own actions.
As a side note, if he cannot stop abusing children, is there any way you can get them out of that situation, such as reporting to child services?
Am in contact with Mom, but not depedant. Dad is only my "mechanic". Only "dependant" for car things. Know nothing about cars. (My joke is taken off youtbe but; Guy A:"how big is the engine?" Guy B:"About this big" holding up his hands ~1m apart)
Yeah. If he wanted a birthday text once a year, he ahould have not punched his way to "victory".
I do look back on the night thst he showed his true colours. I could have called the police about a disturbance, but i didnt. (Religious brainwashing about dad is right, no matter what)
But i didnt.
This June is 1 year of the Straw that broke the Camels back. Wonder how life would be if i made that phone call...
The night he proved he was OK with punching his children, i came to the conclusion that "I lost my dad, but i still have a father".
Its midnight the night before the birthday. Might be a bit rambling. Am 80% sure its OK to skip his birthday, but that 20% is open correction. Am open to learn something new. (Im not a father. Maybe theres something i dont know)
I have had times when I think to myself "would I rather have not been raised or have been raised by the parents I had". My logic being, if the latter is true, there is something to thank (in this case, via a birthday message). Though the fact your dad doesn't acknowledge the existence of his grandkids or the life your sister chose makes me wonder how right it would be that he expects tribute. It seems as if he will suspend his lack of acknowledgement for small gains. If he thinks "[son/daughter] is not my child, I have disowned them", do you think it would be wrong to think "well, as long as I'm not one of his kids, I hold no obligation here"?
This is hard to understand. Could you expand or write more clearly
Dad punched kids last year. Dads birthday this weekend. Do I wish him a happy birthday? (Mom knows what Dad did, but insists i wish him a happy birthday) (Not sure if you were actually curious of my dilema, or just want me to break it down and answer my own question, but you did the 2nd one)
It was just phrased in a way difficult for me to understand. If you're so upset what he did that you don't want to reach out to him then there's your answer.
I'm sorry a parent acted in a way that hurt you and others. I know how that is.
Why do people wish people wish people happy birthday to each other, wven if you dont care / dont know each other?
That was hard to understand? It's a typical abuse scenario.