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Seriously? Did people say that? You complain on here a lot and I call you out each time for your poor behavior and you never acknowledge it (even though my calling you out has been the top comment on a couple of your posts).
You keep spamming stuff about how shitty your job is and how terrible your co-workers are. But you have said that’s across MULTIPLE jobs.
The issue is you refusing to accept your faults.
and which one are those?
on my last thread somebody wrote that unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments
How do I stop having expectations?
This is almost certainly not what they meant. You can't expect someone to read your mind and solve problems you might have.
If management is not meeting your expectations, then the answer is to have a conversation with them about it(ie: make them spoken expectations), not to remove them altogether.
Sounds like you need a union
Said every employee in every feild ever.
Not all workplaces are like this but a large majority are. People suck at great management.
On a specific to your career note, my wife has been an RN for over a decade at this point, 10 years being at a local hospital. Management was trash there. Her co-workers were great but management made the job suck. They blamed the C-suite (yay, capitalism). What really got her was that she never felt backed by management and when a patient would outright lie, they’d back the patient every time. She left the hospital system to work for a private endo/gastro clinic and she said she should have made that decision years prior. She gets paid less than she would at a hospital but she’s happy and loves her coworkers and the docs that own the practice. They’ve won multiple awards and are top in the region. They’ve throw a hell of a Christmas party to thank the staff (free booze FTW).
Get the hell out of the hospital and find a great private practice. They’re out there and always looking for great nurses.
Good luck friend.
Good luck friend.
thanks for that
For me, deciding that everyone around me is an incompetent imbecile has been quite freeing. I don't care what anyone thinks of me. I am always pleasantly surprised when they do a good job. And I am extra vigilant, take responsibility for the safety of those around me at all times.
And I am extra vigilant, take responsibility for the safety of those around me at all times.
could you write an example of this? I don't quite get it.
Say I try to apply this to nursing, it would mean I start checking if my coworkers do their job up to standard, which would be ridiculous, extremely taxing and not my job. Or am I understanding this the wrong way?
I just want to do MY job, not be responsible for other's lack of structure and laziness.
How do I stop having expectations?
Tldr: Realize that capitalism rules our lives and has disjoint its goals in a way where everyone is just following orders with a healthy mix of Ayn Rands we all need to be more selfish.
Unless your goals are directly aligned with corporate (which hospital management is) then there is no point in pleasing you. That includes learning. They are happy to profit with you there, even if learning means they can move you to more lucrative profit opportunity. Senior managers love to trip on dollars to pick up pennies. Besides you could bail on them after you're done learning to a competitor. Better to hire someone done learning and saves them having to pay for your learning (which you have the power to leave with before they break even)
Ayn Rand bit? Keyword objectivism. Being a selfish pos will lead to a better society in aggregate. Really at a minimum the less you work the more you are paid, so no one will want to divide the responsibilities as it represents a cut in their pay.
These are sliding scales and its up to you to determine where your peers fit on that. Even they don't do it consciously. Welcome to the free market.
I'm with you 100%.
You should want to have a good workplace. After all it goes both ways: it will also improve the work you provide.
If that isn't the case rn, you can either try to improve the situation, or, if that proves impossible, change workplaces.
I'm currently in a similar situation; I had a relatively good workplace for many years, but the new one proves challenging. I'm in the trying to improve phase; it's an uphill struggle.
But also trying to improve myself; the current job shows me my own limitations, which are more with my colleagues than with the job itself.
the current job shows me my own limitations, which are more with my colleagues than with the job itself.
but ain't this not one of your limitations, but theirs? This sentence makes it look like your coworkers slow you down.
could you write what your limitations with your coworkers look like? This is to me a very abstract concept.
but ain’t this not one of your limitations, but theirs? This sentence makes it look like your coworkers slow you down.
That's not what I meant.
First of all I consider myself a self-reflecting being (a good thing) and sometimes a little too self-critical (not so good).
I think I'm fairly good at my job per se but it's that meta aspect of dealing with colleagues and (lack of) structure I'm not so good at. Maybe I'm socially awkward, maybe I lack diplomacy, maybe I'm too opinionated. I'm trying to improve there: stop overreacting, think of more constructive ways to communicate etc. Not that I want to stop being opinionated though.
Also I'm not really career-oriented, there's no "slowing me down".
My brain innitially read that as:
How do I stop having erections at the workplace?
Which......I don't know how to answer that.