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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned

Rules

1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them

2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.

3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith

4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!

Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input

RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed

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Avoiding important things at work and then making up shit (hexbear.net)

submitted 3 months ago by fanbois@hexbear.net to c/neurodiverse@hexbear.net

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Love to completely avoid a simple but critical task for weeks only to be reminded that I really need to have it done by now and now I have to make shit up and pretend I'm dumb or lost my notes or my dog ate my laptop, because saying "my brain didn't give a fuck about this particular task for the last month because there was no real deadline and now I'm filled to the brim with anxiety and I want to hide in my bed for three days because now there is one and it was today" is a valid thing in therapy but some how not at work.

Anyway, ADHD sucks and I get knocked down but i get up again and so on.

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[–] Mardoniush@hexbear.net 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

If you have a good manager saying "I'm sorry, I lost focus on this and it slipped past me. I work better with clear and consistent deadlines and staged check-ins. Can we set these in future so critical tasks don't slip" usually works, because you know what managers (and people who are half decent in general) love? Ways they can help you! Especially when it will benefit them and stop shit coming from upstairs. A good manager wants you to be less anxious and for work not to overload you entirely out of their own self interest.

If you have bad management, no god can help you, but also the lying is more likely to work.

[–] fanbois@hexbear.net 1 points 3 months ago

I do have a mostly competent manager. I will apologize and say something to the likes you said. I will take my meds, breathe and find words and actions that will make this situation acceptable. I appreciate your words in any case.

But the dread of failure and rejection is so deep seated, it physically hurts. I stare at my problem and I know it's transient, it's solvable and it will be okay... And yet my body and soul react to it with a violence that is usually reserved for hearing about events in Gaza or a loved one dying. I have failed a thousend times on similar things and all my brain learned is shame and hiding. I am better now, but it's still like a baseball bat to the gut. It's full on fight or flight, and my body is going 100% flight and leaves the fighting for another day.