Counterpoint:
Becoming an adult is realising you do not have to forgive anyone.
Becoming an adult is realising that family is no excuse for abusive behaviour.
Forgiving someone who has no intention of altering their behaviour is simply asking for it to be repeated.
I agree. How can you forgive an adult who hasn’t changed, and who potentially denies that anything ever happened? Forgiving would be a masochistic behavior since you would be the only one to suffer.
TL;DR: we’re supposed to evolve from one generation to another. If older adults don’t do their part, fuck them.
Becoming an adult is realizing that you don't have to forgive them for it.
Because I and many others would never become adults otherwise.
I want to forgive them, but I'll live the rest of my life this way because of my mom's choices and it's not like she would apologize even if I tied her to a stake and hosted a good old fashioned witch burning, so I just have to live with it.
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