Have lived in this country for nearly two years now. (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world to c/ukcasual@lemmy.world

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American in Bedford. Life story aside, how does one make friends? I wasn't even good at it back home, and now they've made me a parent governor. If that's my only social outlet, I'm terrified I'll become some kind of weirdo normal person.

Are there any esoteric cultists, dangerous outlaws, or menaces to society about that I can buy a drink for?

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[-] Che_Donkey@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Hot damn! I was stationed at RAF Chicksands near Bedford, absolutely lovely little town. There used to be an air show/carnival ay the Priory there every year. We used to go to the pubs, then find after close places until late, then hit up this old dudes kebab shop (literally between two buildings)... Make you way up to Biggleswade...I jad a Sgt. who lived up there we used to drink old crow & fosters oil cans...can't remember if that was a cool town or not but the name stuck. Second the Pub idea...especially Sundays

[-] ThePowerOfGeek@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Biggleswade is a decent little town. Had a bit of a problem with stabbings a while back, but seems to have calmed down. And there are some great little restaurants in there.

A lot of the villages and smaller towns around it are extremely charming.

For the airshow, are you thinking of the ones they have at the Shuttleworth Museum nearby? That's where a lot of the spitfires that buzz around in the skies ~~cube~~ come from.

[-] Che_Donkey@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

It has been awhile since i was there, base has since been shut. But there was an old Priory on the grounds that was used for the fair/airshow and i had no idea where the planes flew out of (Chicksands was a "electronic intercept" base, no flight line).

[-] OhNoMoreLemmy@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago

The normal trick is to join a sports club and then all go to the pub after exercise.

Or buy a dog.

[-] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Dog it is. Think the property managers watch their security cameras? Bet I could get away with it.

[-] Swarfega@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

Late to the party here but I moved to another part of the country and I work from home so won't be making friends through work.

I'm a cyclist so joining a local club helped me find new people.
My wife found some girls looking for new friendships (also new to the area) on Facebook. I think she may have joined the towns Facebook group. They meet once or twice a month.

[-] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

You might be right, I just hate the megacorp socials. I'd almost rather force myself to learn how to be normal and make friends

[-] leraje@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago

Pains me to say it but Facebook might help. Look for local men's groups etc. Failing that, pub.

[-] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Well that Zucks. Hmmmm.

The local pub is charming. There's a uke group that did a really cute Green Day cover once.

[-] Venicon@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 year ago

You are just down the road from Milton Keynes. If ice hockey is your thing or even a passing interest then you can head along to watch the Lightning play, got quite an active social out sorts club last time I checked. Or any other hobbies, a local club gives you the chance to have common ground which can make it a little easier for more introverted people to meet folks.