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Long, somewhat related story:

Many moons ago I was at a club and was dying for a smoke, but you had to leave the club and go through two sets of lines and ID checks to get to where I was hanging out on the second floor. Well, they had a giant outdoor balcony, but the area was walled off by a line of plastic chairs. My drunk, fiendin, ass said, "fuck it", shuffled a chair out of the way, and snuck off to the corner to smoke. Well, what was one or two people who noticed me and did the same, soon turned into a packed balcony.

Regardless, my little act of rebellion seemed to get the attention of a "tallish" girl in heels who started chatting me up. About 3/4 through my smoke, the bouncers finally catch wind that there's fifty people on the balcony, and start angrily shuffling people back into the club. At this point, I ask the chick if she wants to dance, and she accepts.

Kudos to her for lasting as long as she did, but thirty seconds into grinding her ass on my stomach, she gave up trying to dance with me and walked away without a word, never to be seen again.

I wouldn't even consider myself short (1.78m, 5'10"), but it was a humbling moment at the time.

Only two ladies didn't like my height lying down

HEYOOOOO

Yeah, most awkward job interview I have ever had

I'm a tiny bit shorter than 5'7" and yes, rejected multiple times because of it, but they don't always tell you why, so some of it is speculation. I've dated taller women a few times as well, so it's not that bad. My wife now is a lot shorter though, but I don't think height played much a role for us. If I were much taller we may even be incompatible.

No but then women tend to get a pass for being short. I don't have much going for me so I feel the shortness lends me a bit of cuteness. I'm fun-sized!

Everyone is tall compared to me so it's kinda funny that I ended up with a guy who's actually tall to everyone else too (6'1).

Edit: 5'1

too many people based it on porn standards, 6'+ and 7-10inches long.

I thought this thread was talking about applying for jobs and was so confused

I was at a cast party with my s/o (she is in theatre) and all the women were chanting that only short kings were at the party (I'm 5'8) - that's the closest I've been to rejection lol.

5'7" IS short in some countries for males.

Edit: For example, average male height in the US is 5'9". Below average by 2 inches is fairly noticeable. Tom Cruise is 5'7". Everyone knows he's short. Is there anything wrong with that? No. I'm 6'4" and I assure you it's not all it's cracked up to be.

I'm a 5'7 woman. Yes, I've been rejected a couple times because I'm on the taller side.

It was used as an excuse once, they just liked someone else. I was ~5'10"

No, but I was rejected because I couldn't drive.

5'5 and no. It's usually my outlandishly goofy and immature sense of humor that scares folks off, based on what I've been told about it. For context, my favorite podcast is bigsofttitty.png, so....fair enough lol

Male, 5' 10" / ~1.78m.

For actual first dates, serious to semi serious, or a first genuine asking someone out on a date?

No, never been rejected on account of my height.

For... whole bunch of people at a bar or party, dancing, hitting on each other and looking to go home with someone?

... Maybe once or twice a chick I was into snubbed me for a taller guy?

I've managed to draw some away from taller dudes a few times as well, so... balances out?

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Possibly worth mentioning that I think I've only ever dated one or two women the same height or even slightly taller than me...

As there are a portion of women who will reject a guy who is too short, I think that also works in reverse and there are a portion of men who will reject a gal because she's too tall.

I'm 5'6. Yeah. So much. I was rejected like crazy for my height in my teens and early twenties, but I lived in a particularly shitty part of the United States, so I'm not surprised in retrospect. I also dated a ton, so there was a lot of opportunity for rejection. I even remember a woman I was not interested in and had shown absolutely no interest in going out of her way to tell me she would date me if I wasn't so short.

I relocated to a much more progressive part of the country and it hasn't come up once in nearly a decade.

Edit: I should mention it was only an issue with women, I never heard anything about it from men.

I don't think so, no, but I've definitely been rejected because they didn't think I was cute. The world has gone downhill ever since they let women pick their mates! 😤