Goodnight all β€οΈ
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I caught public transport because I wanted to drink and while it did take a fair bit longer it's pretty peaceful not having to deal with traffic and parking.
Omg YES! Boyo hates public transport, but dude, it's cheap and relatively easy. Deal with it!!
Expedition 33 spoiler:
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I BEAT SIMON. HOLY FUCK YES.
I was so apprehensive about it because, really, it's an optional fight and I was sad about not figuring that out about it before I finished the game because tbh I didn't realise it was optional so I finished the game going "wait what about Simon? Who is he?" (thanks to some accidental ONTD comments and otherwise) but then going back and finding him was very cool and his fight was the hardest thing I found and I hated it for that fact alone but also liked that it gave me something to grind towards (WoW player in her element) and omg the celebration when I killed the bastard... though I could listen to his soundtrack forever.
Sidenote: Boyo is playing Dune and absolutely loving it!! I'm meanwhile pouring another glass of pinot noir.
I've played the best guitar in my life in the last 3 months. Getting off of suboxone was the right move.
The emotion to muscle memory connection/loop is so clear and strong its nuts.
this is great, so happy for you πππ€
Just christened the new soupmaker I got for the ol' girl / boy.
Morphy richards clarity thing.
Idea was to reduce use of the stovetop for her / less cleaning / quicker and probably safer.
First up, potat and leek. Shit that thing is fast. 21 mins. Maybe 5 mins of prep, 2 mins cleaning. Don't really eat that stuff but was actually surprisingly very good. Gave maybe 3-4 serves.
If she doesn't use it it'll still save me a shitload of time and hassle.
I hope everythings started to settle down man β€οΈ
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I wish I was rich. Iβd buy a nice big house, withdraw from society and fill it with cats.
I'd build a hermits commune with a bunch of smaller houses where we could all withdraw to.
Can boyo and I join the commune? We'd bring cats and peace and keep to ourselves but share whatever we could that you needed but also respect your privacy cause we all need that!
That sounds great actually
Can I be your kind but quiet and reclusive neighbour with dense garden and big library? I can supply occasional vegetables and fruits dropped off on the doorstep.
Yes! We can swap excess
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Alrighty. Going to meet the new PT.
Here's hoping he's cool and can help fix my shoulder.
In other news, the reconfiguration I mentioned a few weeks ago is going well. Mood and energy levels have stabilised. Motivation is lower than normal but not too bad.
Edit:went great with the PT! Chill guy and showed me some great stuff for my shoulder.
Today we are going to visit a kiwi sanctuary. π€π
here are some pics from yesterday π
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family shit
My mum does this thing with my sister where she brings up a problem she has way after the fact. It makes my sister feel terrible.
My sister, a week ago, who has her own place but comes to visit on the weekends: Mum, I'm going to dog sit for a friend this weekend so I'll be staying over at hers
Mum: OK
My mum today: we have a dog here and you're going to sit someone else's dog? I can't even go away and have a weekend for myself because I have to watch him. He doesn't even want to go for a walk more than 100 metres!
Sister starts feeling guilty and anxious and has a panic attack. I get that my mum is sick of having to look after the dog and is annoyed, but my sister told her she was going to dogsit a week ago, and my mum said nothing about going away this weekend.
I thought my emotional regulation problems were just an innate thing, although I reckon if my parents could regulate their emotions and communicate better, it would've been a bit easier on my end.
My mum grew up in a household where her parents fought and her mum in particular cannot regulate her emotions and often goes from 0 to 100 in an instant. If this woman says anything and you disagree, she throws a fit. She has no self-awareness whatsoever.
But I hope that if I ever have kids, I break this cycle. I fear I'm already too much like the bad parts of my parents. It's not on.
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cannot regulate her emotions and often goes from 0 to 100 in an instant. If this woman says anything and you disagree, she throws a fit. She has no self-awareness whatsoever.
I really doubt she doesn't know
I bet she can regulate very well when it's not something she wants or it's to her advantage
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Yea that sucks.
If your mum was told a week ago that's all on her. I'm sure there's probably a compromise here somewhere but your sis shouldn't feel bad about it if there's not. Sounds a bit manipulative.
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Ahhh. Thatβs manipulative as hell. She refuses to communicate a want or a need and then uses the lack of it as a weapon. This isnβt about the dog, itβs about control.
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Also the things your dad says to you are emotional abuse.
Iβm sorry if Iβve ever been unintentionally insensitive towards you in the past because holy shit.
I need you to know that none of this is your fault and nothing your family thinks or says of you is true. It might be a really good idea to prioritise whatever career will be stable and well paid enough that you have the choice to move out and be independent from them.
Also you might want to know that being raised like this means youβre less likely to spot abusive people or identify behaviours as abuse. And there is a danger of you internalising it and blaming yourself for it rather than clocking it and getting out of Dodge.
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Don't worry, you haven't been insensitive at all.
In fact, when I was in a shitty relationship and posted about it on here, you replied to my post, and I took a screenshot of it and read it often to remind myself that what I was dealing with was not good for me. I really appreciate all the advice you've given me.
I feel as though abuse is a loaded term, and I see it more as dysfunction. I'm dealing with people who mean well, but are misguided and express it in the wrong ways. Just like I don't mean for them to be annoyed when I talk too much. I just want connection. My dad tells me that he loves me and wants the best for me, but has thrown the other stuff on top when he's upset.
I have spoken about this to my psych, and we are going to do an appointment with them so she can talk about how they can better support me. To be honest though, I'm tired and I think my parents are tired. I haven't spent quality time with my mum in ages, because she used to be a SAHM and her life revolved around my sister and I, and being a housewife. Moving out could definitely help set a boundary so that our interactions involve quality time.
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I agree. Back to bed.
kiwis were the cutest thing i've seen all week other than mr seagoon
pictures coming soon, right now I'm off t the beach π
It was a great night last night. Looking forward to a great day today.
Finally watching s4 of preacher and it was filmed in melbs and they are very obvious about it being filmed in melbs and it's doing my head in a bit
Mr P was supposed to go to a mate's place for a weekend of catching up with old friends, and we were all looking forward to it (me especially). But it fell through when someone Mr P doesn't like (for good reasons too lengthy to say here) kind of wormed their way in. So Mr P decided he wasn't going. Sigh. I mean, we've been getting along ok lately, but he's always here. I was looking forward to him not being here for a night or two at the start of the school holidays. I need a good night's sleep without someone going for a smoke/pee/snack every so often during the night. It's impossible in this damn place.
Neighbours are renovating, so it was banging and sawing and drilling all day. Then we ordered Maccas and they got the order wrong. No matter which Maccas I order from, or when or what I order, they always get the order wrong. It's a treat for the Minipeelers but it leaves me pissed off every time.
Now I'm relaxing in bed in a quiet darkened room sighs with contented relief. We're going to the library to return some books tomorrow so I'm looking forward to that, the calming quiet, minimal people and the smell of new library. Anyway, thanks for listening to my whinging!
Your peace time will come Lovely. And you and the kids can just breathe. I know what you're living and it takes so much strength, especially when your 'free' time is snatched away. You're doing an incredible job in a really tricky situation.
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I love my boyfriend. Like, he completes me. But the fact that he's always home kinda does my head in. I need some alone time. To do what? IDK, who care, it's the same shit I do when he's home, but it's different, you know? I can imagine you're on a whole different level, and oof, I'm sorry this weekend didn't work out how you hoped!!! Next door renos on top!
Hope the library is the retreat you deserve tomorrow!
so many hugs
your strength and patience and love is an inspiration
if there is anything we can do just ask π
This jerked chicken is declared Do Not Touch Eyeballs or Cock. I repeat Do Not!
My bloke would have endorsed this - he got caught taking a wee after chopping some very hot chillies but had not washed his hands before taking that wee. His screams were impressive. The jerked chicken sounds delish.
Boyo has impressive hiccups, they have not ignited, yet
Some pics from the local museum and the beach ( I'm starting to feel gouged by museum prices )
My lips are getting so dry.
I picked up one of those tinted lip balms to try and itβs quite moisturising β¦but I didnβt look and it contains castor oil. Which can be very drying and is a known irritant for me. DOH
Has anyone played the board games Heat or Wingspan? I heard they were good and they were on sale at EB so I picked them up. I want to make sure they don't sit on the shelf for ages and actually get played
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Tried a new gym class this morning and while I got my ass handed to me, it feels pretty bloody good. Long way to go, but happy to make small steps!
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Today I play games all day and don't leave my apartment. Deal. (Take another recommendation for The Bazaar, deck builder type game)
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