Flippanarchy

I admit it. I couldn’t never pay the rent on my own. When I was younger I essentially stayed with whoever picked me. My marriage went on way too long because I needed to finish college/fieldwork or be stuck with a man who hated me and had someone ten years younger he’d gotten pregnant at college…funny that none of us could actually afford to leave each other until I graduated and got out of their way. Because of environment and poor decisions, I put myself and the kids through unforgivable stress. I’m in my thirties now, the kids are almost grown, and I make great money. But I’m an empty person. I’ll give them what I never had though, so they won’t be in relationships to pay their bills. I’m pretty sure one will be an engineer.

Same as people stay in unfulfilling, shitty jobs that pay less, just so they don't risk losing health insurance or other "benefits."

Ugh thanks for an unpleasant flashback :(

Ex was cheating all over town and my only choice for over six months was either put up with it or be homeless

I once told this story on reddit, and the majority consensus was that it was my fault for not working harder or whatever

There's a damn good reason why we in the working class are gaslit and prodded into converting our romantic relationships into glorified labour arrangements (ie, marriage) as soon as possible - intimacy requires time and energy... time and energy that, under a capitalist system, must be spent labouring for the parasite class and nothing else.

It's also the reason why any children that results from such intimate relationships must be mass-corraled into glorified creches (ie, our so-called "education system") at the first opportune moment - we can't have the working class spend any undue amount of time actually doing any parenting, now can we?

Women have almost always through history needed a male supporter for housing or they needed to live in family cooperative situations.

Found out a month after buying our new house the reason we never saw our neighbors. They were in the midst of a divorce, but still living in the house, with the wife's boyfriend. So visits were a bit awkward. Fortunately that was right after the housing crash, so they were only stuck in the house for 2 years.

A lovely young couple bought the place and spent a year renovating it to live in with their kid...then divorced 6 months later. I don't think couples should live in that house any more, there's too much bad juju stored up in the walls.

this is why more dv shelters/womens shelters need to offer vocational assistance

So many decisions get made because you gotta make sure you secure a bag of some kind.

Capitalism doesn’t care about minutiae. It only cares about the end results. Unfortunately, minutiae is actual human lives in this case.

Wildly unbalanced capitalism without strong controls and social policy. All systems seem to fall prey to corruption because people try to corrupt the system to enrich themselves and their friends, then cement their gains with whatever power they can flex.