In every relationship, I focus on our common beliefs and ideals, and don't push them about the rest. This works on all scales. For interpersonal relationships, this means that we can spend time together and make happy memories, even if we disagree on something. For organizing bigger groups, this means that organization is even possible in the first place - if you make too many purity tests for joining your movement, it will consist of only one person. Focusing on a small set of aligned goals is the only way to make a mass movement in any society.
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Sorry for the late response, I was taking a hike. Thanks for your input! I agree the best way to change minds is by letting them think that they were always correct, even if they change behavior. I like to say that "everyone's vegan, according to themselves." Vegan, as in a* good person*. The process of self-criticism (I prefer the words like improvement or recovery tbh) is very dialectical. You have cognitive dissonance, holding both yourself and a new idea. That's contradiction. But your ego can't lose. People that are truly convinced they're not a good person sadly don't stay alive for long. So you need to preserve your sense of self healthily, but carve it and mold it slowly and carefully, until reformed to a desired state. It's like tissue damage and recovery to build muscles. If you tear up everything, no more lifting anything, at all. So you go at it slowly.
So I wouldn't use the phrase "purity testing" what's true is true. What's wrong is wrong. I hope our comrades see the truth and are able to handle it and welcome it in themselves. And you bring up a great point. For a group, or a party to be united in belief so much, as if it's one person...that's exactly the goal, through never ending criticism and corrections. Hope that makes sense.