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Immediately after starting HRT, I noticed my emotional range get significantly wider, but it came back down close to its usual range, or so I thought. Recent events, about the last week or so, have had me crying inconsolably, and getting caught up in a giggle fit that was a solid 10 minutes of me barely able to open my eyes and laying down was non optional π. It's really nice to actually feel without the emotional equivalent of earplugs.
I've been on it for 10 months and nada for me. Barely a blip
I'm prone to giggle fits now. Which is wonderful except I have a small child who occasionally triggers them and it can be absolutely debilitating sometimes.
Sounds wonderful! I found that after I started HRT (which you may or may not want to, no pressure), I "felt" movies a lot more. I started crying at the sad parts, laughing at the good parts and understood, for the first time, why people like a movie based on feeling and not just the filmmaking. Generally, highs have become way higher, lows have become lower. A much preferred state to the indifference that dominated my emotional world for the first 20 or so years of my life.
Oh, I'm definitely interested to see what more estrogen feels like, surely I'll at least try for a few weeks / months eventually. But actually transitioning... that's still a very scary thought. Or even coming out in rl at all. For now the decision is just accepting myself, no more, no less.
Maybe I should rewatch some of my favourite movies.
Just do what feels good for you. It took me about two years from realizing I wasn't a man to daring to start HRT and medically transition. IRL trans friends help a lot, they let you see that it's actually possible. Make sure you don't hesitate or suppress that part of yourself just based on what you think others will say or think. That doesn't work long-term.
Make sure you donβt hesitate or suppress that part of yourself just based on what you think others will say or think. That doesnβt work long-term.
Good point, yeah, I guess that's practically what I've been trying to do for the last two decades, by being in denial. It did not work at all.
I'm gonna be honest, part of what makes it easy to accept right now is also knowing that whatever happens, happens on my terms, and my terms only. But while the thought of transition is scary... the thought of staying closeted is just as sad. I'm also thinking that gender dysphoria might get worse, now that am conscious about it.
Trying to find trans friends would be nice, though it does feel a bit selfish under the circumstances. I've found a contact to a local self help group, maybe I'll start there.
Anyway, thanks for your kind words and input.
Trying to find community is not selfish!! Never is! Do it and don't look back.
And yeah, in my experience dysphoria does get worse. It took me so long to start medical transition because I had to reach a breaking point where it was transition or die for me. I was super scared my family would cut contact and that I'd never pass etc., the usual stuff. Turns out neither of those happened and the only regret I have is not starting sooner. For me, knowing another transfem IRL was what made transition feel achievable. Before, it was something only Internet people could do.
Glad to hear it turned out well for you! I'm convinced, definitely going to make that call tomorrow.
Dang it... I wish there was a way to just know before I committed
If you start HRT you will have many months before you have to worry about permanent changes (breast development) happening. If you just want to know how it feels, you could do it for a month or two and see how it goes. If it's not for you, just stop doing it.
If it helps, try to reframe it less like a single decision point and more of a choice every time you would take medication / HRT to continue in that direction. You're not just making one decision to take HRT, you're making a new decision every day.
To build on this, there are lots of things you can do and try that are reversible, even hrt takes a little while to show results that are forever.
Make up, clothes, hair, nails, mannerisms, all this you can just do and try, and more!
Well, there's still a lot of stuff that I'm unsure about and I don't know where I'll end up eventually, although I do lean strongly towards a feminine identity at the moment.
But maybe I should consider myself lucky, because there also were signs all along which are just insanely clear now that I've finally dared to read through the Gender Dysphoria Bible.
I hope you find the answers you're looking for.