Ah gender bait, haven't seen gender bait around these parts in like... 10 minutes?
this post was submitted on 30 Jan 2026
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Yea it always catches me off-guard that Lemmy is so aggressively progressive on pretty much all fronts but still seems to fall for this type of stuff. I guess I shouldn't be surprised, but I am disappointed
I've seen almost no difference in attitudes about gender and sexual insecurity in Lemmy as Reddit broadly, people here will scream about socialism and the environment, but the moment someone says "Men have silly habits about this thing" suddenly the leering face of Andrew Tate appears like an apparition in your monitor and the screen turns red and everyone suddenly has a story about how girls are mean.
Also, a lot of the bots and astroturfers who are literally paid to amplify and distort arguments actually are allowed to run with far more freedom on these backwater, leftist sites because people here think it's a "sheltered" and isolated community, and the traffic here is slower so moderation is less active.
Isn’t the issue the exploitation of sex workers, mostly women? Like if you’ve found ethical porn, by all means wack your shit to it. I just think the things people are able to explore with writing, or hell even animation if the artists aren’t exploited, are much more varied and interesting without exploiting actors. Like I’ve found a few queer porn projects that are like owned by the actors and stuff. Basically porn coops, which is fucking awesome.
I think that’s a major issue, another that comes to mind for me is that men tend towards quite extreme pornography which may give them a stilted idea of what sexual relationships can be like
Whoever said art is dead needs slickle on their peeny.
Okay, that worked. That made me forget about ICE and greenland for 2 minutes
When a woman wants to read a fictional story with relatable characters and emotional context who are also attracted to each other and have sex in about 30% of the scenes it's seen as a bit of naughty fun, but when a man wants to jerk off for 3 minutes to a close-up clip of an over-saturated oil-coated faceless asshole getting pounded by a faceless cock, and maybe go for a bonus scene of the girl turning red and gagging from being facefucked, suddenly he's a "pervert"
tbf facefucking is hot
It is, but it's also pretty undeniably perverted. Lots of women and men both get off to it. Lots of erotica is perverted too, of course. Nothing wrong with being kinky!
I just think it's silly that the OP tries to pretend as though the typical erotica is the same sort of thing as the typical porn. Anyone who has consumed both can verify they're vastly different. And I think it's especially infuriating that the OP tries to make women out as hypocritical about this when, in my experience, plenty of women like visual porn too, and I've never personally known a woman irl who hates on visual porn but also reads erotica. Seems like a totally imaginary caricature as far as I'm concerned. Primo gender war bait.
May men and women unite to be horny and kinky and unashamed of it together!
Seek help
Consensual face fucking is the only acceptable face fucking, so yes, help would indeed be a requirement. As the saying goes, it takes two to facefuck.
No need to kink shame. Not every woman that participates in a good ol' fashioned face fucking is having a bad time. Lots of women like being dominated just like a bunch of men. That's not to say the porn industry doesn't have issues with abuse, but a blanket shaming is dumb.
This might be the most obvious attempt to paint women as judgmental hypocritics with reading comprehension issues that I've seen yet. Please take your ineptly executed false flag gender war psyops strawman arguments elsewhere 🙏
Homie my comment is sarcastic, it references a meme that makes fun of the original post. I'm pointing out that erotica and (most) visual porn are definitely not comparable like the OP implies and that it isn't hypocritical to see one as more perverted than the other.
https://www.reddit.com/r/copypasta/comments/73rgq0/when_a_girl_buys_a_vibrator/
But thank you for standing up to what you must have perceived as actual insanity
Unless your reply refers to the OP in which case it is I that have misunderstood