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[–] Nikki@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Roderick to hot girl timeline

looking amazing proud of you :)

yay thank youu

[–] Daft_ish@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] ViolentMiracle@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] bilouba@jlai.lu 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Cis man here, not to simp, but you are very cute 😍

[–] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Not my target demographic but thanks!

[–] bilouba@jlai.lu 2 points 1 day ago

Wish you the best to find love ✨😊

[–] Coolkat@slrpnk.net 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Oh do i love when you enter girlmod area and you are all smiling and look confident !!

[–] IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 39 points 2 days ago (2 children)

by now I've seen countless transition pictures, and every one of them seems like magic.

like y'all just showing a picture of a brother and sister and expecting expecting me to believe they are the same person. my brain is unable to believe it.

HRT, is the closest we have to magic potions.

[–] alsaaas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

That's largely bias due to, well, if the transition isn't going well or HRT isn't leading to great results, people are much less likely to post that openly online

[–] IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

God dammit, you can't replace magic with survivorship bias, I'm as now.

[–] alsaaas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I'm as now

? WDYM

Also sorry, but that "magic" doesn't exist, some people are just lucky AF in a variety of factors

[–] IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

sorry, meant "I'm sad now" but I stuck at typing on my phone.

[–] alsaaas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ah kk, also mood on both the "I'm sad now" and the typos TwT

[–] IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I got a PhD, I have published books, I teach English for fucks sake, but when I type on a phone all of that means sit

[–] alsaaas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

woah, cool! It's wild what kind of ppl you meet on the Threadiverse :>

we're all weirdos in here

[–] NikkiDimes@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

One of us, one id ya, ibe pf ys!

i swear to God, it's a matter of time until I swype type my way into some horribly racist bs I never meant, and it'll resurface in the future and destroy my career

[–] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)
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[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You look very pretty now :3

[–] sober_monk@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 35 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

such great progress, congrats!!

EDIT: just wanted to point out that you've done yourself a huge favor by starting so young, well done 💖

[–] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 2 days ago (2 children)

yayy thanks. I mean I didn't start that young only when it was viable at 18 aka a year before moving out cause that is the amount of time I would be able to hide

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 25 points 2 days ago (1 children)

"I didn’t start that young only when it was viable at 18"

Girl, you're still little more than a baby.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 2 days ago (5 children)

When I was your age I was starting to buy skirts and "cross-dress" privately (at home) more, that's when I chose my name and started experimenting with makeup. Then I repressed for more than a decade, so ... yeah, don't do what I did.

I know it probably feels too late to you, but 18 is a much better time than you realize - the body continues to androgenize significantly. I couldn't grow a beard until my mid 20s, my voice significantly changed in my 20s - the changes are huge.

So even starting at 18 you've saved yourself significant distress and suffering that waiting longer would have caused. ❤️

[–] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

That iss fair. Hey I am glad you found yourself eventually. I hold the belief that no matter the starting age or genetics transition can lead to happiness for anyone. Time and time again I have seen older trans women who started much later than I glowing so what I mean to say is that first it is never too late (no matter how painful and slow progress is) and that I am proud of you that you eventually started and took steps to control of your gender expression too ❤️

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[–] toetallyautistic@thelemmy.club 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

congrats!! you look awesome

[–] Shirow@lemmy.zip 21 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Wish I knew sooner to but better late than never ☺️

Awesome change though, in almost 2 months in.

congrats on the two months! andd thanks. Also stay strong and patient early progress can be so slow unless you have blessed genetics just know there is light in the end of the tunnel.

[–] Derpenheim@lemmy.zip 13 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] 33550336@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Be still, my heart ❤️

[–] belastend@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 2 days ago

The glow up is insane

[–] puppycat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

thank u for sharing, ur journey is genuinely inspiring to me

I hope HRT makes me as pretty as you one day🥺

It will! You are not immune to hrt

[–] Eryn6844@piefed.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Beautiful! wish we could hang out!

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