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So I'm having second thoughts and I'm thinking about how we talked a little bit on how I don't need to apologize to my boyfriend Avery because nothing HE does is MY fault and that he's just dry and has been acting weird due to mental exhaustion and depression.

I apologized because our convo went like this: "Yeah, I'm alright, I have Alex" (his boyfriend [other partner besides me]) "You have me too" "Yeah, I know"

So I thought he was mad cuz it was over text but he wasn't, he just said he knew.

Anyway, he can always hang out with Alex and Alex makes him feel better but whenever I ask Avery to hang out, he's too busy, too depressed, doesn't feel like it, doesn't know, is gaming, anything like that.

Whenever I ask if I can help, he says there's nothing I can do but I feel a bit sad because Alex always seems to be able to be there for him because he sees Alex every day.

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[–] may_be@thelemmy.club 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

It sounds like you can't. Best case scenario: Alex is the only one who is able to help him through the tough time hence his attachment to him and his less of an attachment to you. He is only acting this way because of his depression and it really doesn't have anything to do with you. I hope that's the case, especially if he's a nice guy.

[–] may_be@thelemmy.club 2 points 5 hours ago

Hopefully he's not depressed/exhausted due to not being able to handle 2 people