What? No one does this at the same time, you gave two opposite behaviors.
this post was submitted on 06 Mar 2026
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Maybe @OP didn't realize this is "unpopular opinion", and not "virtually universal opinion"?
Can't say I've ever heard of anyone doing this--if anything, those in trans or queer spaces have been most accepting of name changes regardless of gender, in my experience. So I can't imagine this is a terribly unpopular opinion.
Sounds like you must be talking about one individual in particular, personally known to you, who I presume must be an asshat
i... ugh. this is a sore spot.
a relative of mine changed her name and her mother took it really hard. see, she's not... independent. she finally got an ASD diagnosis at 60 and her mother has had to help her with everything since she was a child. her mother was the only one who would help, because her toxic personality drives everyone away who doesn't have to be there due to family obligations. also she was named after her grandmother. so this act of changing her name looked from the outside like an act of spite, like a lot of things she does. her mother felt as if she was being pushed away emotionally, while still having to help with everything physical.
i will respect everyone's chosen name on instinct, but questions like this one brings painful memories.