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[–] Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 days ago (3 children)

I don't understand women who fake it. They're just reinforcing bad sexual performance in their partners. It's shooting yourself in the foot.

[–] chronicledmonocle@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

I had a fiance who I found out had been faking orgasms for over a year or two. Never communicated that she wasn't enjoying it or how I could improve, even if I asked. Then she cheated on me, but continued the relationship because I was paying all of her bills while she was unemployed. Glad I found out before tying the knot from her best friend.

Now I'm married to a different person. We communicate our likes and dislikes during and before sex after trying things. After 14 years, I can't imagine better sex with anyone else. Just getting better with time like a fine wine.

[–] zeroConnection@programming.dev 0 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Did I date your ex? That's exactly the story she told me as to why she cheated on her ex, "because he wasn't making her happy". Then on a separate occasion she told me she had never done anything wrong in her life, soon after we broke up, because apparently I was too judgemental.

[–] chronicledmonocle@lemmy.world 1 points 4 days ago

My ex didn't say I was judgemental. She said I "wasn't there for her". Still no idea what the fuck that meant, because I drove 11 hours twice a month to go and see her, paid her bills, video called her every day, and thought I did a pretty good job of showing her love.

She also cheated on me the week before my 21st birthday party and then invited the guy she cheated on me with to my party. I even knew the guy and was semi-friends with them.

In retrospect, I'm glad she showed her hand before marriage, because then I'd have been extra fucked. Dodged a building-sized bullet and am much happier now.

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 1 points 5 days ago

Some men react badly to not being told they're the best.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago

Too many people overlook the value of "communication skills" in a relationship

[–] prenatal_confusion@feddit.org 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Not every woman gets pleasure or can even climax from vaginal intercourse

[–] MJKee9@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Which is OK. But communicate that with your partner.

[–] prenatal_confusion@feddit.org 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Ideally, yes. Real societal norms demand some specific behavior from women that make that difficult. I am not a native speaker so I am having trouble to find the right words. Maybe this is enough :)

[–] MJKee9@lemmy.world 0 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I can understand societal norms in certain places silencing women from fully disclosing sexual preferences and limitations. But, in my opinion, if you care about a woman having or faking an orgasm, you should also care about making sure you are both comfortable expressing your preferences and limitations before fucking.

[–] prenatal_confusion@feddit.org 1 points 5 days ago

Fully agree.

[–] systemglitch@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago

Proper response

[–] solidheron@sh.itjust.works 1 points 6 days ago

Lol shit he got small pp