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I'm currently struggling to find my home. I have an account here at lemmy.ml, where most of my posts are, and one at kbin.

Why do you think your instance is the place to be?

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[–] SinJab0n@mujico.org 2 points 2 years ago

I actually made my home in the one hosting a previous reddit community I was fond of, just choose one u like.

[–] KiranWells@pawb.social 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Was looking for a furry one, and pawb.social seemed to be well-run (since it was related to a couple of decently-sized Mastodon servers) and was generic enough (and not NSFW focused). There also seemed to be a decent number of technical people there as well (in fact, one of the Mastodon instances is furry.engineer), so it matched up with my other interests as well. I considered lemmyrs.org, but ended up not choosing it.

[–] LapGoat@pawb.social 1 points 2 years ago

same, went for the furry one.

[–] BrainisfineIthink@lemmy.one 1 points 2 years ago

I have four!

Beehaw was my first, when I joined it was 3rd or 4th most users, but had just been upgraded (per a pinned post) and had a cool community vibe. This was like a few days pre protest I think?

Lemmy.one got made on the first day of the mass Exodus, and beehaw was STRUGGLING. I knew the mods were a small team and the server wasnt able to keep up so I went to a less populated instance.

Reddthat.com is new and I haven't used it yet, I went there because it seemed middle of the pack, and I wanted to have an account where I create a community.

And then lemmynsfw is for...actually, I miscounted I only have three accounts.

[–] wumpus@latte.isnot.coffee 1 points 2 years ago

I was told it was better for load balancing if we didn't all use the same one. So I just looked for one that had easy signups and didn't seem overeager to block stuff. Apparently, some from this instance come form /r/china. I'm not, but I do drink coffee. Anyway, I think it's working out so far; better than reddit anyway.

[–] AlchemicalAgent@mander.xyz 0 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I joined mander.xyz because it has a central theme around the natural sciences. It could possibly include STEM content as well; there is an ongoing discussion about it. The admin(s) are present and very responsive.

For anyone with a love of science and/or nature I recommend it highly as a home instance of Lemmy.

[–] alternative_factor@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I'm trying to set up another account at mander but I haven't had any success.

[–] Sal@mander.xyz 0 points 2 years ago

Really?! That is strange. I just tested account creation and it appears to work fine. What error are you getting?

[–] AlchemicalAgent@mander.xyz 0 points 2 years ago

Hmm. The server is up right now. Does it give an error or just sit there?

I can say I've had horrible luck trying to sign up through the apps. It works much better through a standard browser for initial sign up.

[–] elavat0r@mander.xyz 0 points 2 years ago

Mander has been lovely so far. Plenty of interesting content and chill people. It was the first instance I saw when browsing that looked friendly and yet didn't require me to write an essay to register an account.

[–] DracolaAdil@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago

I read two things about the fediverse and immediately hopped over here to make an account. Though I had no idea what I was doing, like no idea. Kbin was the first name that popped up and I signed up for it.

Again, no idea what I was doing. Once I did sort of figure out the fediverse I also signed up for Lemmy but I didn't seem to like it as much as Kbin so, I'm sticking here.

[–] DarkGamer@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago

I prefer kbin's UI to the other federated servers I've tried. Beehaw is probably #2 for me, and it seems like a really nice community. Mastodon.social is also cool but it's a lot more twitter-like which I have a hard time getting used to.

[–] druppel@feddit.nl 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I picked my regional one (technically also better for latency)

Also better because if the admin bans you, you can find them in person and "discuss" about the ban. (such discussions usually involves fists)

(/s please don't actually commit a violent act lol)

[–] trachemys@iusearchlinux.fyi 0 points 2 years ago

I figured my instance would make it easier to satisfy my requirement to tell everyone I use Arch, btw.

Kbin.social has a good interface, a few userscripts to customize it as I please, and it was the first one listed on the website that was in english lol.

[–] jrubal1462@vlemmy.net 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I landed at vlemmy.net. I tried to register at a few bigger ones that gave infinite circles. By the time I got to vlemmy I wasn't really being too picky anymore, I was just trying to figure out if the problem was me or overloading.

A nice side effect of landing there is that some of my very few subscriptions are on beehaw, and we haven't been defederated.

[–] exotic@lemmy.one 0 points 2 years ago

Yeah, I'm on lemmy.one because of that issue too.

[–] moridinbg@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago

I did not. I ended up on lemmy.world but visiting over, which I think is a cool feature.

[–] Pisck@lemmy.ml 0 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I joined lemmy.ml because the join-lemmy site gave me extremely little to go on. It was a coin toss between this and beehaw.org once I realized how few instances were established and not right-wing.

That was only 2 weeks ago and already I've seen the site force 2 server upgrades, even as the admins have strongly encouraged new users to join elsewhere to prevent centralization.

The instance list desperately needs a few columns added, including whether new signups are encouraged or discouraged.

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[–] Garrathian@fanaticus.social 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

My current instance has a bunch of sports communities, and typically the first thing i like to look at when i was on reddit were the sports subs. I was previously on beehaw but they kind of shut themselves off from some of other big communities so i migrated off

[–] goforliftoff@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago

I just took a look at your instance and love the number of communities over there. I’m on shitjustworks and it’s good, but I definitely subscribed to a few on your instance. What was odd, though, is I couldn’t seem to find them with a simple search…? I had to do an β€œall” search and use the web address to find them. Probably user error on my part, but I seem to be subscribed now.

[–] mayniac@feddiverse.org 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I created my own instance so that I know it will not just "go away".

Edit: I have a feeling that a lot of instances, besides the big ones, will vanish after the newness wears off.

[–] Entropywins@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Kbin because it was the first one that actually let me register and didn't freeze

[–] dan@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Seriously, this. I tried for days to register on Lemmy. One day I was mid-registration and the button was just spinning, doing nothing, so I came over to kbin, registered and started using the site. Lemmy never stopped spinning. No thanks.

[–] dan@upvote.au 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] jon@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

You all need some longer usernames, sheesh.

[–] Joe@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Gotta get those good names quick

[–] dan@upvote.au 0 points 2 years ago

I'm self-hosting my own Lemmy server, which I guess is cheating since I can get any name I want to πŸ˜›

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[–] SickIcarus@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I joined sh.itjust.works because I like the domain. It makes me smile πŸ™‚

[–] minorsecond@lemmy.ml 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I read the thread where that domain was born, lol. It was pretty funny.

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[–] burgersc12@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I like the domain and it wasn't overloaded like most of the Lemmy.xx ones. I was torn between this and beehaw, glad i went with sh.itjust.works

[–] SickIcarus@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Me too. I actually put in an application for an account on Beehaw on day 1 just because they seemed to be the most active (before I understood how any of this works.) Never got a reply - I think we both dodged a bullet 🀣

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[–] SavvyWolf@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I joined Beehaw early on when things where a lot quieter because I liked what they were trying to do (and back then there were only like two instances, and I didn't want to put more load on lemmy.ml).

Joined sh.itjust.works to make a community after the sysadmin just casually walked up with a huge server, which is a level of swagger I can get behind. I've since moved to this as my "main" account since Beehaw defederated with lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works (which sucks, but is understandable).

May move again to pawb.social at some point, although that means people will know something about me. :P

Edit: And now pawb.social has defederated with sh.itjust.works... I'm getting more and more tempted to just roll my own personal instance just for me...

[–] MiddleWeigh@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago

Thought about switching over, with zero knowledge of this platform, clicked random link in reddit thread and it was lemmy.world. turns out it's populated and stable.

I initially used reddthat.com because I've already tried 5 different instances and the sign up doesnt work. Then I remembered about the piracy community, so i switched over to lemmy.dbzer0.com, a pirate heaven. Feels like home. πŸ˜ŽπŸ΄β€β˜ οΈ

[–] ganksy@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago

I chose lemmy.world solely on the fact it had a lot of members. Lemmy.ml was a contender too. I just wanted to jump in and check things out. Knowing (slightly)more now, I don't think it was a bad choice.

[–] JasSmith@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago

I think kbin.social is a bit more free speech. I want less moderation. Lemmy has easy tools to use to block users and communities I find offensive so if something really offends me it’s easy to block. I prefer to control it rather than having some petty mods play king with what I’m allowed to see.

If anyone has any good suggestions for other free speech instances I’d love to hear!

[–] tacticaltweaker@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago

Lemmy.world initially cause I didn't like the overbearing moderation and locked communities of beehaw.org and the developers of lemmy.ml. Kbin seems to be great and I prefer its timeline / sorting, I just wish it was a bit more polished with magazine syncing and certain UI features, but that should come with time.

[–] Andreas@feddit.dk 0 points 2 years ago

feddit.dk. I wanted a regional instance as my home instance, because they tend to be chill with controlled growth, while also having native language discussions. My country didn't have a Lemmy instance at the time, so I picked the closest option. I love Denmark and they don't seem too annoyed by my presence (yet). Thanks for having me 🫢🏻 πŸ‡©πŸ‡°

[–] Hyacathusarullistad@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I chose kbin.social because of the alleged tankie issues at Lemmy. I didn't know enough about the fediverse to realise though that only a handful of Lemmy instances were included in the "warning" I'd heard about, so I looked to kbin instead.

Based on what I've seen from the admin here, though, I'm confident I'm in the right instance. He seems like an honest, stand-up dude who genuinely believes in all the best things the fediverse seems to be capable of

[–] Entropywins@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago

Dudes on point for sure

[–] CeruleanRuin@lemmy.one 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

I just picked lemmy.one mostly at random, but also in part because it advertised itself as well regulated but also not heavily populated and thus prone to crashing with the recent influx of reddfugees.

Seems to work okay, but I can't create a community without admin approval and the instance also disallows downvoting, and I'm not a big fan of that at all, but I'll give it a while longer and see.

I'm still finding it a challenge to find the balance of communities that interest me I used to have. There's an awful lot of meta chatter about the site itself from new users that, while I understand, gets rather annoying when it takes up the whole feed. So it's definitely an adjustment, resulting in me using it less than I did my old haunts, but in the meantime I've gotten a lot more reading done than I used to, so I've got that going for me.

[–] Fmstrat@lemmy.one 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Didn't realize I couldn't downvote. Might be time to look elsewhere.

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[–] Zifnab25@lemmy.ml 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Not gonna lie. I've got multiple accounts across platforms. But yours seems to be responding quickly and the content is solid, so... here I am.

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[–] buckykat@lemmy.fmhy.ml 0 points 2 years ago

It was near the top of the join Lemmy recommendations that day, I like piracy, and it didn't have any hoops to jump through to make an account, not even a email address.

I joined sh.itjust.works because my application at lemmy.one was taking a while and I mean, who doesn't want to be a sh.it.head πŸ™ƒ

[–] small44@beehaw.org 0 points 2 years ago

I'm on Beehaw because there are no downvote button

[–] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago

I chose beehaw. I chose wrong. So now I'm on lemmy.world and nothing was lost 😎

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