It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
Suggest coffee/lunch. Easy openers: weekend plans what did you do last weekend, bitch about the weather/traffic/real estate prices. Let people talk, listen and ask them to elaborate.
If you want to make real friends at work, pay attention to people and their personal lives. Example: my coworker called out sick because his partner got covid so in a few days I followed up to see how they were doing. That stuff goes a long way and it's just a text message.
i do try this but i have had little headway, i will keep at it
People love talking about themselves. Try to be interested in the lives of other people. How do you strike up a conversation? Ask them a weird question, there's lots of good ones on asklemmy. If you could swap lives with any fictional character what would it be? If you could shoot anything out of the tips of your fingers what would it be? What is a rational fear you have? If it's fun to you it'll probably be fun for others too.
A little philosophical here, but you're usually better at doing things when you don't care if you succeed. Try to make friends because you should try to make friends, not because you need friends. Talk to people because conversation is great, not because it's the path you must follow for friendship.
How do you know when it's okay to share stuff about yourself? Not a fucking clue buddy. I think most people out there are actually pretty bad at conversation too, so have patience with them.
Not sure if this has been helpful. I read a book once, Platonic by Marissa G. Franco. It's helped me understand friendship better.
i will read the book thank you
Idk. Work isn't the place for "friends" for me. I spend my idle time here and then get docked on my reviews for "not having a good enough attitude" or "being on your device too much" despite admitting I complete my tasks adequately.
not so much friends but it would be nice to talk to people about something that isn't work
Mhm I've found work it's more acquaintances sadly, and similarly getting shit for tone etc, basic ableism from people too
Yeah idk either, I’ve been at my job almost 5 years and most of my work friends left in the last year or 2 and now I also feel very isolated
being lonely at work fuckin sucks man
I get this everywhere, I've no friends at all bar my wife, it can suck.. I've been through a lot and have issues with people too, lots of trauma so it's difficult to open up too. I also can shut down and go non verbal. I've started to try again but it's hard trying to stay positive all the time.
I hope someone reaches out an olive branch.
I see some solid advice in here already, good luck