Alice

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[–] Alice@beehaw.org 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Oh yeah I know, I wasn't thinking about dating. I'm hideous. I just want to meet someone who doesn't loathe me. I think it would be nice

ETA I do think being straight is easier even if dating is hard. None of the straight people I know have families trying to cast demons out of them, none of them make friends only to later hear them talking about how their demographic are secretly trying to corrupt America and kill the Jewish people, et cetera.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 5 points 1 week ago (3 children)

New job on the way, I should be happy, but I feel insanely depressed.

I wish I didn't live over an hour away from the gay nightlife. I wake up at 5 and everything starts after I've been awake for 16 hours. I'm too sleepy and anemic to make the drive.

I had to see my family and listen to them talk about how jealous they are that I'm forced to live in such a "quaint" backwater shithole even though I've told them I hate it. It must be soooooo easy to be straight. I have to jump through hoops to meet someone who doesn't loathe me, and they're all jealous.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 2 weeks ago

There is no wake up call for Harry Potter fans, because they wanted this. Why the fuck else would they fund it?

Stop acting like they're anything less than transphobic wastes of oxygen, for the love of god.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 4 weeks ago

Been going to the gym whenever possible, not the solid routine I'd like, but I'm still enjoying it. Pruned some houseplants that went crazy after a VERY long depression. A few of them might bounce back, we'll see.

Also got a few works in progress going. They gave us flowers at work so I have one pressing under a book right now, and I'm trying to propagate the stem. Not confident, but I hate to waste a flower, so I'm trying. Also picked a bunch of succulent leaves up off the floor at work. Hopefully something grows 🤞

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 5 points 4 weeks ago

Nah. I'm not 100% against it, some are fun or useful in concept, but I'm here to talk to people, and threads littered with grammar corrections and Sokka haikus get old.

If there was an effective vetting process for useful bots, eg the repost sleuth bot, that'd be nice. But the "good bot"/"bad bot" voting system just became its own form of spam.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 4 points 1 month ago

That's awesome, I'm glad you have people you can depend on.

If I'm being honest, my family is more like an anchor. None of them ever learned to help themselves and that still expect me to do it. I'm just going to try to change the part of my personality that wants a social life.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 6 points 1 month ago (6 children)

Rough as usual. Overworked, underappreciated. I have a driving test coming up for a new job, but my current job won't give me the day off, and I don't want to quit until I've passed that test. I'll work it out, it's just stressing me out.

Multiple people online and in person have been unpleasant dicks to me when I honestly wasn't trying to do anything wrong and it kind of depresses me. I want a social life but I hate people.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 14 points 1 month ago

I mean, I assume?

I found the bot promoted in a different Telegram channel dedicated to making and sharing AI-generated nonconsensual pornography which has about 50,000 members.

This isn't thought policing... First off, these are actions, but second, no one's policing it.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 3 points 1 month ago

People still don't know what Mastodon is. I mentioned it recently and someone asked, "isn't it mostly white supremacists?"

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 6 points 1 month ago

Tell him they're ghosts, and the whole joke is that Mystery Inc. keeps finding random guys dressed as ghosts and somehow don't notice all the ghosts yelling right there

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 3 points 1 month ago

Kind of, and it was a good way to keep trolls and spammers out of sensitive communities, but unfortunately with bots and astroturfing existing nowadays, karma incentives terrible behavior.

 

Title. I signed up for a queer speed dating event recently and I have no idea what to expect. Not really looking for a how-to guide, just curious about others' experiences. Was it fun, would you do it again, did you meet anyone cool... That sort of thing!

 

A paper published Monday in Nature Medicine found that the tiny fragments of plastic are passing the blood-brain barrier and into human brains, and the amount of microplastics in the brain appears to be increasing over time. The concentration of microplastics in analyzed brains rose by about 50 percent from 2016 to 2024.

 

Genuinely can't figure out how other people develop active social lives. The most common advice I get is to look on Meetup, but I found pretty much one group and while I had fun, halfway through the event they started making fun of liberals for not having friends. I'm genderqueer so that ain't gonna work out. Everything else on Meetup is scientology garbage.

I go out and do things on my own and try to be open to people who approach me, but on the rare occasion someone wants to talk to me it's because they're horny and they've mistaken me for a straight woman. I can be out in the mud picking up litter and someone will strike up a conversation about the environment, something I'm interested in, and it turns out it's because they think I'm doing this to get the D.

I'm getting crazy bored. Does everyone just work a 9-5 and then go home alone? Except for when they have sex with the occasional random straight man??

 
 
 

I tried /r/suicidewatch on that other site, but even though I made it clear that I was looking for advice and encouragement, the only two replies I got were in agreement that it doesn't get better. 😐 /r/depression is even worse by the look of it.

Does anyone know of any good websites, or is it the nature of all of them that they just turn into a crabs-in-the-bucket nightmare? I'm trying to get better but it also gets isolating pretending I'm not depressed all the time.

 
 

Never done this before, turned out to be a lot of fun :)

 

I'm 30 and horrible at keeping friends. I don't know if it's the unschooling or the autism, but I'm told I come across as hostile when I think I'm being nice.

I know the basics. I make eye contact but not too much, I ask people about themselves and their interests to show I'm interested, I don't dominate conversations with myself and my own interests. I try to be a nice person people might want to keep around, too— I give money when someone's in a pinch, I remember birthdays, I help move, et cetera.

Eventually people either people tell me I'm being a dick in ways I never realized, or more likely, they just eventually stop messaging me back.

The one thing I'm sure I struggle with is body language. I've read a lot that you need to mirror the other person's body language, but I don't know how to do that. Especially since I normally meet people at work and we're usually pushing big carts around and moving products and I'm just not thinking about my body as something expressive, just practical.

I'm sure I have many more blind spots that I'm not even aware of.

So like... are there classes for this? Some kind of specialized therapy? I don't really want to try anymore unless I can stop being a dick

 
 
 

‘Family values’ bill is adopted despite being denounced by the president, rights groups and the European Union.

Kesaria Abramidze, a trans model, was murdered the day after the bill passed. Even if the president vetos it, this law already has a body count.

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