BartyDeCanter

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[–] BartyDeCanter 3 points 3 months ago

Sorta related, if you’re really interested in using them and are a straight cis person I highly recommend trying them out from the other side. Create a more or less generic account of the opposite gender and see what kinds of messages, likes, or whatever you end up with. It will be mind boggling how different it is from what you are used to and give you an idea of what you will need to do to actually make a match.

[–] BartyDeCanter 8 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Well, sorta. As someone else pointed out the economic incentives for most dating app owners are diametrically opposed to the needs of the users. There is also a huge consolation in the market with the majority of the apps by user count being owned by a single company which leads to enshittification.

There are a few exceptions but they very much aren’t for everyone.

OKCupid from 20 years ago was great before it sold out. But it’s only accessible to time travelers.

Next are the more event based or hookup apps which tend to cater to kinksters, swingers, poly, and queer folk. I’m thinking of things like FetLife, Grinder and Plura. They work well for their audience since those communities tend to have events that people will keep coming back for even if they have successfully found someone on the app. In fact success finding someone might make them more likely to keep on the app and bring in their friends.

But for monogamous straight people? Dating apps are a hellscape.

[–] BartyDeCanter 2 points 3 months ago

I put a Sena setup in my and my partner’s helmets. It works pretty well and can move to a new helmet or you can just put the speaker/mic setup in multiple helmets and move the controller.

[–] BartyDeCanter 2 points 3 months ago

Just started Baldurs Gate 3 and have been enjoying it so far. My biggest complaint is that the keyboard map is just off enough from the Owlcats Pathfinder games that I keep screwing up small things.

Also looking at getting back into the system Shock remake since the big box finally showed up yesterday.

[–] BartyDeCanter 1 points 3 months ago

I just finished my third playthrough of it. I was disappointed to find out at the end that I screwed up one of the story points I was going after, but oh well. It was still a fun experience. After three time though I doubt I’ll go through it again. Still one of my favorites.

[–] BartyDeCanter 16 points 3 months ago

Not the case at all. Remember, biology is way more complicated than you think. As a starter, there is chromosomal and hormonal sex. Chromosomal sex (X and Y chromosomes) generally determines hormonal sex. But… the gene that determines hormonal sex (SRY) can sometimes get knocked off the Y and onto the X. Or off the Y and onto nothing. Or a bunch of other things. And hormonal sex can get disrupted in a bunch of ways, so that you end up with people who are intersex or seem to be cis female until puberty when they grow a penis. Or who appear to be cis female until they have problems conceiving and find out they are XY but don’t have testosterone receptors. Or any of a thousand other things that make sex determination complicated.

Biology is statistical not deterministic and with 7 billion people there are going to be a lot of edge cases.

[–] BartyDeCanter 12 points 3 months ago

Looking at my dating history… yeah, that tracks.

[–] BartyDeCanter 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Watermelon: As expected Earthmelon: Potato Firemelon: Red chilies Airmelon: ??

[–] BartyDeCanter 2 points 3 months ago

Mi atendas tiun ĝojan tagon!

[–] BartyDeCanter 2 points 3 months ago

You are the best kind of correct.

[–] BartyDeCanter 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Super cool! Thanks!

[–] BartyDeCanter 6 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I don't know about twitter, but its very easy to download all of your data from Facebook. I did it yesterday in preparation for closing my account. Account->Settings&Privacy->Your Information->Download Your Information.

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