[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de 39 points 8 months ago

That's called a community centre and used to be pretty common. Growing up we had multiple that were run by the local Catholic organizations, and I think there were also some that were run by the youth branch of the various political parties.

But a key component of such a place being success is having a certain kind of open culture. There's countries where if you throw 10 strangers in a room and return an hour later, you'll find 10 strangers on their phone, having not uttered a single word to each other.

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de 13 points 8 months ago

This will blow some people's minds on here: some people actually derive pleasure from work. I actually like working. I like researching, building and producing stuff. I would rather work than spend my time doing some stupid hobby. My only requirement is that I need to believe in what I am doing. I won't work just for money or out of necessity and I won't work just to make some rich asshole, richer. I also won't work out of some competitive drive like some people do. I don't even work for myself. I don't care about material riches. I only work so that I can later marvel at my creations. But, I still like working.

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de -3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

First of all the milk crate has been used since a century ago, to fit people of different statures in the same frame and help with other adjustments. Secondly, are we going to pretend like height being a big deal for men, isn't almost a universal thing? Do progressive people care less about height? Where is the evidence for that? I think on lemmy we should move past typical Reddit posting like this.

EDIT: Worth mentioning that height is also a big deal for women who want to ascend to leading roles. You'll note many shorter women will tend to wear ridiculous tall heels.

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de -3 points 8 months ago

I started using this new dating app recently. It's very easy to use. I works in a somewhat unconventional way. You keep your smartphone in your pocket and try to be aware of your surroundings. And then from time to time, you just see a woman having a bit of downtime, and you just go there and talk to her. Instead of writing a witty profile you have to instead come up with a witty excuse to initiate the conversation.

The downside is that it is more sporadic, so you might often get the perfect opportunity at the wrong moment. The upside is that the match rate is 100% and the follow up is also quite high.

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 8 months ago

99% of sex on film is casual sex and to claim that "casual sex" is normal and good is not straightforward to me.

For example most of the time with a macho male protagonist, they will show him using women for sex like disposable condoms. Another worrying trend on the rise is plot lines that basically glorify cheating.

I am not bothered by the sex or the nudity per se, but Hollywood loves to glorify characters with very problematic characters.

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 8 months ago

Younger people have less sex because they are more educated and much more picky.

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 8 months ago

Your comment is typical of a subset of progressives that have no acceptance for people who do not share the same values as them. Dare I say, that is not very progressive of you? What is wrong with having "puritanical conservative values" when it comes to relationships? Must one forcibly engage in orgies with strangers to be a "proper" progressive?

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de 24 points 8 months ago

It never bothered me as a kid, but now for some reason I get triggered by the way Hollywood portrays romance. Why is everyone such a HUGE slut? It's such a huge turn off. It is actually really hard to find a film that portrays a healthy loving monogamous relationship.

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de -5 points 8 months ago

We live in a free society. Nobody is telling her she cannot work. She's just mad cause nobody respects her because she has no dignity left.

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de 80 points 8 months ago

I mean, the irony is that there are even less women on lemmy than on reddit so like...

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de 24 points 8 months ago

If the dude was getting 60 matches in two months he was already doing quite good for himself, no? Pretty sure that is above average.

[-] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 8 months ago

Whether you are more or less sociosexual (the scientific term) is partly genetic and partly environmental (and by that I mean more how your parents behave than whether or not you belong to a religion). It is completely normal to be turned off by promiscuity because you value a deeper connection.

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