[-] Grail@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

A lot of the regulars here want you to keep on banning and insulting anyone they disagree with. They want fights and they want a divided community. That's what they've always wanted. And LOC banned anyone who didn't want that, so now most of your regulars are the people who do. You've got a community made out of people who want trouble. If you don't cause trouble for them by banning all dissenters, then they'll make the trouble for you.

I think you should go back and do a mass unban of people who were banned for silly reasons. You should try to build community of people who want open and respectful discussion with other leftists, and hope over time those voices drown out the ones spoiling for a fight. I don't think you're going to be able to calm down a lot of these people except through the passage of time. They're probably really distrustful because LOC was so distrustful. They'll only believe you can do well as a moderator if they see it with their own eyes. They won't believe anything you say if it's just words.

Also, I'm curious. How did you leave things off with Mindtraveller? Were they causing any problems after the change in leadership? Was there any division between them and you?

[-] Grail@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I have NPD, so I understand a lot of that. What I'm missing is an ego. My parents didn't give Me one. I had to make My own, and it's crap. It kept on falling apart every time it suffered a little knock, so I made it huge with lots of redundancies. Problem is, a lot of neurotypicals are personally offended by a big ego. They think My internal thoughts are an abuse against them. My NPD wouldn't be a disability if everyone else could just get used to My private personal coping mechanisms.

[-] Grail@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Soulists do not believe in social contract theory. The social contract was invented by Enlightenment philosopher John Locke, the "father of liberalism". Locke was a capitalist. Soulists are anarchists. We don't like liberals.

When it comes to Soulists, you're more likely to find utilitarians among our ranks. We punch Nazis not because Nazis violate the social contract, but because Nazis threaten to bring genocide and war. While a social contract theorist would happily deal with a Nazi who was polite, well-mannered, and followed all the rules, a Soulist would not. A Soulist would pull out the baseball bat and tell the Nazi to get the fuck out, no matter how well the Nazi follows the social contract.

[-] Grail@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

Oh, it gets worse. While NPD has a genetic component, like all personality disorders it seems to be triggered by early childhood trauma. It would seem that if you get abused by your parents badly enough to get a personality disorder, genetics determine whether you get NPD or something else like BPD. The hatred of people with NPD is victim blaming. It's saying you're evil cause your parents abused you. Here are My other articles about NPD:

https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/anarcho-narcissism-b647c8062173

https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/why-reactionaries-hate-pride-and-narcissists-938d39261f13

[-] Grail@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I recommend reading the article, I'm very proud of it.

I wrote this article because I was inspired by something Ian Danskin recently said. See, he used the word n***c***stic as an insult in a recent video. I spoke to him about it, and he agreed to remove it as it's ableist, and left a comment on the video discussing the issue. I'm very grateful that Ian cares about disability issues. But he also said he's disappointed that psychologists named a mental disorder after the Greek myth, and that got Me thinking. Is the original Greek myth worth making cultural reference to, if the word were not an ableist slur? So naturally, I analysed the myth, and discovered that it's queerphobic, heteropatriarchal, and vaguely ephebophilic. Turns out there's no good reason at all to use the word as an insult, even if you're referencing Greek mythology!

I find that fact kind of beautiful, because it defangs excuses used by ableists that they were referring to Greek mythology all along. If they really were, well their words suck just as bad. So they can't hide behind such excuses anymore.

Anyway now I stan Narcissus as an aroace king ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆ ๐Ÿ–ค๐Ÿค๐Ÿ’œ

[-] Grail@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Discord, mostly. A bit of it leaks onto Xitter as well. I actually got involved in a bunch of discourse yesterday. Someone who had previously been accepting of My pronouns suddenly decided to debate Me about them and say I have no right to control the language other people use to refer to Me. https://imgur.com/a/bs5zXTM

Generally discussions about these fringe queer topics will be more common on more personal social media, and less common on less personal media. That's because people with fringe queer identities feel safer being themselves in a more personal environment, and in a less personal environment, dominant social attitudes are more powerful, so on a reddit-like platform divinegender people just get downvoted to oblivion.

[-] Grail@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

Oh, plenty of people see a divinegender person and decide to go all "Your gender is an unjust hierarchy because all gods think they're better than everyone and no anarchist or god-fearing christian would ever respect your gender". I'm just mythbusting the most common complaint about what I'm saying, which is to not be transphobic. I never considered that someone would be unfamiliar enough with deiphobic tropes to see that section as a non-sequitur. Interesting.

[-] Grail@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

Well, I mention gods being nonbinary as a supporting point for the idea that gender is informed by religion, and I mention divinegender humans because a lot of people are tranphobic against divinegender people, and I think right after someone learns that all genders are religiously informed is the best time to tell someone about people who are often attacked for the religion in their genders.

Or from another point of view, the point of the article is "Don't be transphobic to people with religious genders", the fact that all genders are religious is an appeal to empathy to get people to not be transphobic, and I talk about two-spirit, bissu, and divinegender as examples of people with religious genders not to be transphobic to.

[-] Grail@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

If you'd like help understanding those hard to follow parts of the article, I'd be happy to explain them in more detail. In fact, I might be able to edit the article to improve its clarity if you can tell Me what parts are lacking.

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