I would say most people don't see guns in scary situations(used for robberies or any illegal act) I'm in my 40s and have a gun, have friends with guns.only my family or friends that grew up in rougher situations ever saw one used illegally (including brandishing illegally) The person shooting has a silencer on their pistol. Illegal I think in NY. Contrary to media, it makes it more quiet, but not completely silent. Your ears will definitely hurt (and you may even dmg your ears) if you're nearby, but people in cars may not think it's a gun shot.
There are states that allow people to walk around with a firearm completely visible(can't have a long coat that may cover it) but, to my understanding, people don't like to carry in that way usually because it's frowned upon.
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