It’s an unfortunate reality but a ton ton ton of people don’t actually reach out to make plans even though they are my friends. I generally make things happen. I know who my friends are because they show up when I invite them :)
I have found that with people with similar interests (lots of my friends climb) I just made a group chat with everyone and am like “Hello everyone I am climbing today at this location and this time, come join me!!” And I usually get a few people. They’re not always the same people either so I get a lot of quality time with different friends this way, while leaving it completely up to them to show up or not.
I’m sorry you deal with understanding social cues, there’s a lot of nuance and it’s pretty subtle :/ the way I go about it is if I like hanging out with a person I’ll reach out to them and ask if they want to do something. If they reject me a few times without trying to set something up I just give up
This guy is queer and has dated trans women before, and from what I can tell he definitely sees me as a woman, but I had the same fears and issues with men before. Also chasers are gross :(