QueerCommie

joined 3 years ago
[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 1 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Bump amber whataboutism volcel police

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 1 points 5 months ago (2 children)
[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 3 points 5 months ago

I have autism as well, so that’s a “plus,” but I have slowly built up consistent morning and night routines with stretching and reading and stuff at the same time every day in order and that helps a lot. I don’t know if reading helps you sleep, but I really just started reading some whenever I finally brushed my teeth and added random things over time. Start with the small things and don’t worry too much about consistent times until you have a bunch of consistent activities?

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 39 points 5 months ago

As a thick skinned open minded hwite amerikkkan, hate away.

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (4 children)

Following that logic there are millions of good yanks and we all end up good in the end :(.

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 4 points 5 months ago

Spelling error. I meant to remark the absurdity of the posting.

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

What is this reactionism?

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago

I have said many embarrassing things, so perhaps that’s fair.

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 4 points 5 months ago

IQ just shows how good you are at doing a few certain things. I don’t think I’m way smarter than everyone else, but it’s cool to know I have certain irregular skills. All evens out with AuDHD as a disability tbh. On my IQ test my autistic ass made a ton of weird connections between words they gave me before realizing what they wanted was far more simple. I think I generally made the “right” assumptions otherwise tho.

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago

I just watched a bunch of some dude’s videos before hearing him decry the left’s evil lockdowns and masking. Mind you he did it multiple times and years after the actual events.

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 2 points 5 months ago

spoilerOne must work toward one’s goals, not simply hope for them. My view of expectations is anything specific I hope for or expect will not happen (in the way or timeframe I expect). The time when such things happen is out of our control so we should just do whatever we can do today. I have general hope more than specific hope. Maybe this is another autism binary: must think through all the specifics vs refuses to think about all the specifics (I have been on the first side but had to give up).

 

excerpted passage

It is commonly called “noting”, and has its origins in Sutta 111 of the Middle Length Discourses of the Buddha (or Majjhima Nikaya [MN], very worthwhile reading), usually referred to as MN 111, called “One by One as They Occurred”, and in MN 10, Satipatthana Sutta (variously translated as “Four Foundations of Mindfulness”, or “Frames of Reference”, etc.), as well as Sutta 22, Mahasatipatthana Sutta (“Greater Discourse on Mindfulness”) of the Long Discourses of the Buddha (or Digha Nikaya [DN]), usually referred to as DN 22. Noting is used primarily in the Mahasi Sayadaw insight tradition from Burma, though related exercises can be found in various Zen traditions, notably Soto Zen and Korean Chan, such as repeatedly asking, “What is this?”

Noting is the exercise that gained for me the most breaks and insights in my early practice, particularly when done on retreats, and because of that my enthusiasm for it is extreme. I still consider it the core foundation of my early to middle practice, the technique that I fell back on when things turned difficult or when I really wanted to push deep into new insight territory.

The practice is this: make a quiet, mental one-word note of whatever you experience in each moment. Try to stay with the sensations of breathing, which may occur in many places, noting these quickly as “rising” (as many times as the sensations of the breath rising are experienced) and then “falling” in the same way. These are the fundamental insight practice instructions. When the mind wanders, notes might include “thinking”, “feeling”, “pressure”, “tension”, “wandering”, “anticipating”, “seeing”, “hearing”, “cold”, “hot”, “pain”, “pleasure”, etc.

Note these sensations one by one as they occur and then return to the sensations of breathing. When walking, note the feet moving as “lifting” and “placing”, or as “lifting”, “moving”, and “placing” as you perceive each of the many sensations of all those processes, noticing other sensations as they arise and returning simply to the sensations of the feet walking.

The details of this practice can be found in such books as Practical Insight Meditation, by Mahasi Sayadaw, which I highly recommend, available free online in various places and in book form. This is my all-time favorite dharma book. It is short and to the point. Its instructions work and the promised effects are reproducible. The first forty-two pages are total gold. There is no need for me to repeat much of the useful information found there, as it is pithy and now readily available online.

From https://www.mctb.org/mctb2/table-of-contents/part-i-the-fundamentals/7-the-seven-factors-of-awakening/

I just did this for a whole bike ride, noting everything that caught my attention. It’s far from “focused” but I remained aware the entire during, while losing track of time and thus impatience. Usually I get lost in thought when I try to be mindful, but I was able to simply label a thought or perception and move on. There are a lot of sensations if you pay attention so it will be challenging but that’s what keeps the mind engaged. You don’t need to be aware of everything at once, just wherever your attention is at a given moment. As well as other benefits, I feel like being aware of how everything is constantly changing helps one perceive life as more novel and thus less boring and miserable.

I’m sure it’s great if you’re not ADHD as well, as that’s the case with the author.

 

Do they think it would be easier to just elect Democrat presidents and therefore fix everything totally? Plus the template’s stupid. Why would the school force Bart to write such?

16
submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by QueerCommie@hexbear.net to c/neurodiverse@hexbear.net
 

I keep getting TikTok ads and whenever I see the shop logo in the corner or “sponsored” I scroll away. They claim to help AuDHD but I have no idea what to trust.

I’m curious about mushrooms, lions mane or whatever, and microdosing hallucinogens.

 

As an AuDHD perfectionist I’ve never valued rest that much. I feel like I should be doing something interesting and being sedentary is bad for you. Recently I have realized the importance of resting as I have been exhausted by external demands and stimuli. I am at the point where even mostly lying around in my room all day, small demands and noises are too much. All I am able to really do is hyperfocus on my phone or maybe half attentively read. I know people can spend days in bed recovering from life, but I don’t have that time. I value this time not doing anything, but I’m afraid if I don’t get active or something I will have trouble falling asleep later. I know staying in your bed while awake disassociates it from getting ready to sleep so I have been lying elsewhere. Any tips? I have been eating. Are there comfy headphones that actually kill all the sound? Bc my ears do not want to process anything anymore.

35
submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by QueerCommie@hexbear.net to c/neurodiverse@hexbear.net
 

I’ve seen it referenced on TikTok but I’m curious about the evidence. It seems pretty plausible. The same gene is involved apparently. There’s very high “comorbidity.” Even in non “AuDHDers” many of the symptoms of one (that an individual “doesn’t have”) are present. Autists can be very different from eachother and it seems like they may sometimes have more in common with some ADHDers than eachother. Dividing things into specific labels like this is kinda lib and undialectical anyway. People already realizing Aspergers and other things were just autism. “Pathological Defiant Disorder” (allegedly) seems to basically just be a common presentation of AuDHD. There’s also the monotropism theory that both tend to be high in.

This is just my uneducated opinion on something I’ve been fixated on and pondering for a little while. I’m curious if anyone has any serious evidence or more interesting thoughts. There’s probably also connections to other neurodivergences.

 

I’m being hyperbolic, but TikTok just re-radicalized me and in ADHD energy mode and I know this urgency won’t last forever. I hate when things I’m around feel contaminated by toxins and I already wear a mask for the polluted air. I hate getting rid of things that might be useful, but also plastics bad so it might be useful. I do have OCD, but this isn’t about that it’s an exaggerated but rational urge. I realize this account’s lib asking you to “vote with your dollar,” but for personal health what do you think? I can afford this eventually. I’m clearly monotropism spiraling but it’s fun.

Also, should we stop recycling plastic if the product will be worse?

43
submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by QueerCommie@hexbear.net to c/neurodiverse@hexbear.net
 

I have trouble telling what the pain in my stomach is telling me, so I pretty much only just realized how bad my body hates certain sensory and social stuff. It’s as though my insides were on fire and the only way to slightly affect it is to cry (and obvi get away from the noise). I thought it was just anxiety or under stimulation before, but no, those are separate things. I have spent hours today doing various self care type stuff (meditation, being in nature, exercising, mindfully eating, yoga nitra, massage, taking a bath, fun things on the internet, positive stimulus of other sorts, zoning out), and the feeling’s still there. I don’t even mask. How do you deal with having to be in a sensory hell for hours of the day? How do you calm down? Please don’t say drugs.

Context: ADHD often makes people struggle with interoception and being able to relax.

 
 
 

(I collectivized this image btw)

Me:

 
view more: next ›