[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 13 points 3 months ago

Stop trying to make fetch happen.

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 19 points 5 months ago

Not sure if they get much hate but they sure get a lot of shit

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 18 points 8 months ago

I think you need to tell A that sharing this feedback with you won't help B change, and that they need to address B directly or talk to their supervisor.

You can also say that sharing this feedback with you is putting you in an uncomfortable position, as you are friends with both of them, and you need it to stop. It's perfectly okay to validate A's complaints ("I understand why you feel the way you do") so that A doesn't feel like you are dismissing them. But that doesn't mean you have to be in the middle.

Having spent many years in corporate life, I can tell you that one of the biggest blockers to people improving is that no one tells them there is a problem to begin with. Person B may have no idea they're underperforming. And to be fair, I can't tell from this whether their supervisor would even agree that B is underperforming; B may be doing just fine from management's perspective, in which case A needs to let it go.

Good luck!

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 8 points 8 months ago

That demo struck me as a cherry-picked example. Can it work? Sure. Is it always that smooth? I highly highly doubt it.

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I see you're getting a lot of answers from both sides of the spectrum. But if you're struggling, I want to help.

Being in a behavior health ward is good for when you can't help yourself anymore, or need significant treatment that's difficult to handle via outpatient (like electroconvulsive treatments). It's not like a hospital stay where you walk out cured of some infection. It's more like a stay in the hospital after a huge car accident. They'll get you stable, they'll set you up with a therapist for long-term recovery, and meds to manage the symptoms.

You're right that talk doesn't fix money problems and things like that. But what it does do is help you keep from suffering alone AND it teaches you how to manage the feelings in a healthier way. That can be the difference between falling apart in the face of money trouble and having the skills to focus on finding a solution--or even just a way to survive.

The thing about depression is that it makes everything feel worthless and hopeless. You have to trust that you can't properly interpret whether a solution will work for you, and that the medical experts you align with are going to have a clearer view of what will help bring you out of the depression.

That doesn't mean all therapists are good. Or that a good therapist for someone else will fit you. But those are problems you can start to manage once you've taken a few steps toward recovery (assuming they turn out to be problems at all).

I've been in therapy for over a decade, on meds for just as long, and once in a ward for a week. Does it suck to be "trapped" in the unit? Yep. It's not a party in there. I don't ever want to go back. But when I did go in, it was because I felt like I legitimately couldn't take care of myself or see a way forward. In that regard, it saved me. So if my biggest complaint is that I felt stuck for a few days, well... so be it.

But there are many other options before being admitted. There are social workers, psychologists, psychiatrists, intensive outpatient programs, ketamine therapy, and more. You may never need to be admitted at all if you can get to treatment before you're completely overwhelmed. Sometimes the solution is incredibly simple, like getting more vitamin D and a proper sleep schedule. Sometimes it takes a little ongoing medicine with weekly talk sessions. Sometimes it's more. But whatever it is, it's worth it. You can be happy in tough situations, but if you're depressed you can't be happy even in good situations. And that's no way to live.

Long story short: if you're depressed you aren't equipped to judge whether a solution will work without trying it, you have very little to lose by trying therapy, and the potential gains are the difference between misery and a fulfilling life. A mental institution is an extreme measure that's only part of a longer-term solution, and you may never need it. But it can be the literal difference between life and death if you're at the end of your rope.

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 17 points 10 months ago

So imagine a society dominated by men.

This society knows that sex is what leads to children. What it doesn't know is how to verify if a child belongs to a particular man.

As this society is patriarchal in nature, it's very important to the leaders/men that their lineage is protected. So they need a way to ensure that children's bloodline can be properly guaranteed. The only way to control that is to make sure that women are bound to a specific man, and that sex with any other man is forbidden/disgusting. This is why bastard children and unwed mothers have historically been treated with such disdain. But men were often given a pass. The women were screwing up lineage tracking.

Tracking is less an issue these days, but the social conditioning is still there. We've forgotten why we prioritized it in the first place (right or wrong). Now it's the way many people think because it's been the way we've behaved for so long, much of society is geared around it being a basic truth.

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago

"Those aren't two pillows!"

"Nobody leaves this place without singin' the blues."

"It's showtime!"

"That's not a motorcycle, baby. It's a chopper."

"You're a daisy if you do.'

"Mr. Blutarsky. Zero-point-zero.""

"I want my two dollars!"

"So THAT'S how it is in their family."

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 9 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I dunno. We can manipulate entangled electrons to look like a yin yang symbol and that's not cool?

Edit; photons. My bad.

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 12 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Hi! Googling this question reveals the answer is yes, it does result in fusion.

As far as the output, according to this top result paper, that depends heavily on the size of the black hole, the size and speed of the accretion disk, and the medium from which the black hole is drawing (like a white dwarf vs interstellar gas).

From what I can make out--and I have no background--the author maps out results as high in weight as nickel.

Edit: grammar

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 41 points 11 months ago

I love the discussion here as to possible reasons why the labeling is different.

That said, there's a very good chance it's just because the initial version had 3, got translated, then someone added a 4th item and it never got translated.

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago

OP is saying they've heard people claim it but hasn't seen evidence. They're wondering if anybody has some, because otherwise they're treating it as a rumor.

[-] Thehalfjew@lemmy.world 29 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I don't know. Ford was a lot of shitty things. But he was also an actual innovator, not just an investor who thought he was an innovator.

And as egocentric as he was, he still saw the value in providing free healthcare, food, reasonable hours, and good wages to workers.

He was a collosal asshole but I don't think it's fair to compare him to Musk.

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