That's what xmpp is. It was embraced by Google and Facebook and killed.
I have two currently. I love painting miniatures, I work from home and will do it during my working day when I need a break.
My other fixation is a friend of mine who came back into my life recently. She's amazing and knows what's happening. I have a partner who is also amazing and understanding.
I have a home server and a laptop. Both run different versions of Ubuntu
Mine is large enough to be a capybara.
Best is so subjective.
I am running pivpn, pihole, all the arrs, jellyfin, gitea and rundeck.
What's the problem with this?
If they can moderate that many groups to the standard each community is happy with is it an issue?
Email has the same problems as federated lemmy servers.
Mail Servers can end up on distrubuted blacklists and unable to communicate with each other. When office 365 has an outage it causes huge problems because it's a single large provider having issues. That provider goes down but not email as a whole.
This is the same as what happened about a week ago when lemmy.ml and lemmy.world went down due to load.
The are so many bad actors in superstonk and other gme subs they do not want anyone to move or splinter off.
Keep making noise in there and people will start moving over.
I use rundeck to do this.
Lemmy is opensource, you can see and get a copy of the source code here. https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy There's no development cost because all developers are volunteers at this stage.
For each instance that depends on the admins running that individual instance. The instance I use is being sponsored by a NZ company that are providing the admin's a free virtual server to host on.
I use kubuntu for work. At home I have a mix of centos 7 and ubtunu server.
I showed my 7 year old. She was very amused and still does not believe there are any dolphins.