I don't have much contact with any of my parents, but I have no contact with that parent in particular.
There were plenty of bad things happening in that house growing up, but I feel lucky it wasn't worse. I think a lot of abuse victims feel this way, though - like they didn't really experience abuse because it wasn't some stereotype of what abuse is in their mind.
Either way, I have mixed feelings about it all, and consider myself very lucky and privileged overall.
And I feel the need to laud your founding of the community, your labor as a moderator, and above all that, someone who makes an effort to keep the community active. Sure, we all participate and together form the community - but you do an immense amount of work and play a larger role in facilitating this community than the rest of the members. You do an amazing job, and I just really appreciate you. 💗
I think meditation can be a very powerful tool, but like any treatment it can also have side effects. It's worth familiarizing yourself with those so you can recognize them and navigate them well (sometimes this means meditating less, or stopping entirely). When I meditate regularly I experience insomnia, which is very common with monks who meditate and on meditation retreats.
Anyway, I just don't want anyone to hurt themselves. Most of the time recommending meditation is safe because rarely do people put in the effort and time and make enough progress that they start having side effects, but you never know and it's better to start with informed consent.
I used to make art a lot, but I lost it somewhere along the way. I would like to return, but life hasn't always been so permitting.
Baking is great too, I love cooking and baking!
I should have added taking hot baths to my list. I'm not sure how much it actually improves my mental health, but there are supposedly studies that show it helps, and I feel overall like it's possible it helps me (I certainly choose to do it a lot, esp. when I want to relax or feel better).
Riding bikes sounds really nice - I miss that feeling of freedom.
And no worries about the journal, it was a long time ago and I was so dissociated by then that it was more just another thing to endure than anything else. Life is much better as an adult with freedom from parents. 😄 Every year is better than the last.