public intoxication laws still apply when in a bar, generally being in a bar counts as "public", but honestly a lawyer would have to look at the jurisdiction and the specific laws that apply (and whether the bar counts as public or not) - but either way, it's irrelevant if he was sober ...
After a lengthy drive to the bar, Strobel said he stepped inside to use the men’s room. However, there were no stalls—only urinals, rendering it inaccessible to him as a trans man.
At first, an employee warned both Strobel and his friend against entering the bathroom of the “opposite” sex, but after a brief back-and-forth, Strobel said he believed he had permission to do so. He also said he and Frady were the only two people in the restroom, which Frady confirmed to Erin in the Morning.
That’s when a man who said he was the bar owner burst into the women’s room, peering over the stall to look at Strobel as he used the restroom.
He said the owner and employee ejected him and his friend from the bar—grabbing and pushing them out as they reportedly called Strobel anti-trans slurs. The police were waiting at the door, Strobel said.
The officer cuffed him “so tight that I can't even feel my fingers,” Strobel said. “I still have a bruise on my knuckle.” Meanwhile, his arresting officer allegedly kept calling him a “little girl.”
In a follow-up video, Strobel said he was released on $500 bond, hit with a trespass notice barring him from entering Sand Dollar Social Club, and issued a ticket for public intoxication and disorderly conduct. Frady said she received the same.
In an interview with Erin in the Morning, Strobel emphasized that he had not consumed a single drink—he was there for the sole purpose of being the designated driver. He says officers did not breathalyze him.
There is no state law in South Carolina preventing a trans man (or any man) from using the women’s room in public accommodations, such as a bar.
So, let's see if I understand this:
- the bar owner warns the trans man to not use the bathroom of the "opposite sex"
- the trans man goes into the men's restroom but there were no stalls, so he went into the women's restroom ~~believing he had~~ after being given explicit permission to do so
- some dude (maybe the owner?) barges into the women's restroom and starts peering over each stall and finds the trans man and looks at him naked and then panics and starts calling the trans man a man and calls the cops while physically ejecting the trans man
- the trans man is called anti-trans slurs and the police refer to him as a "little girl"
- he is given a charge of public intoxication despite never having a drink
It sounds like they thought the trans man was a trans woman, tbh. The stupidity and cluelessness is astounding.
hot take, but doesn't Tinder already promote pairing based on superficial characteristics - filtering by height seems entirely compatible with the Tinder mindset and approach to dating ...
I would just do monotherapy, tbh - I don't think it's uncommon for DIY folks to do monotherapy (probably for this reason, anti-androgens are probably harder to get on the grey & black markets), and while I started with bica at first, I switched to monotherapy when bica was useless for biochemical dysphoria / mood impacts of T. I needed the T to be suppressed, and sufficient E was the solution to that.
Also, I don't do DIY, so I can't help you with sourcing - but I bet that Matrix room would have thoughts 😁
+1 for DIY, it's also nice to be taking estradiol enanthate as an ester (which you can buy DIY) rather than estradiol valerate (which is about all I can get by Rx in the U.S., the estradiol cypionate I can get is not potent enough).
so, funny you mentioned not moving, but I might be moving like 4 weeks after my surgery 🙈
Do you remember roughly how long it was before you could, for example, sit through a short-ish flight (like sitting for a few hours)?
Hopefully you've already had extensive hair removal completed (usually recommended is at least a year of electrolysis and three full cycles of clearing), not sure if you're still going through that, but that has been a big part of my wait for bottom surgery.
In terms of wanting to cut the thing off yourself, I find I have intrusive thoughts like this as well, I just watch them come and go and remind myself that I'm not a skilled surgeon who can turn my situation down there into anything like a woman's vagina. I've lived my whole life with those thoughts, so it's nothing special or interesting about them now. Usually I can redirect to feeling gratitude and reflect on how incredibly lucky I am to live in a time where anyone has access to a surgery like that (relative to the human past, even the trans emperor of Rome was unable to get gender affirming surgery, let alone a peasant like me).
Otherwise I try to avoid seeing or thinking much about my genitals, I think this is the best advice I can give - just don't look at them, don't think about them - limit your exposure. Wear dark feminine underwear that hide the shape and look of them, wear gaffs if that is affirming and helps you not see or think about them, and so on. Wear these even when you might not otherwise, like when lounging around. I even wear them during sex, so I won't see or think about it. If you're taking a bath, cover the genitals with bubbles or a hand towel. Avert your eyes, redirect your thoughts.
What I've found is the more I think about it, the worse I feel. So redirecting awareness when you see the genitals and reminding yourself that 6 months is a very short period of time and that you might even someday forget what it was like (and even wish you remembered) - those are things that have helped me. (My surgery is in a week.)
The citizen was Thai, and unfortunately they never had the right to change the sex marker on their passport:
Transgender people in Thailand currently enjoy few legal protections against discrimination and those are not fully enforced. There is no route for transgender people to obtain legal documentation that reflects their gender identity, and the affirmative policies that exist (including the ability to change one’s first name) leave discretionary power in the hands of administrative officials.
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Several interviewees explained that they faced issues traveling to other countries, including Hong Kong, Japan, and South Korea, because the gender marker on their passports does not align with their gender expression.
And yes, now the current U.S. administration will not recognize updated sex markers, insisting on only recognizing essentially assigned sex at birth, at least it will be that way until a new administration takes over (assuming that administration is not the far-right like the current one).
In the video, Nut explained that Chinese airport officials laughed at her after seeing her passport, which described her as “Mr,” despite her fully female appearance. She said she was used to such reactions and did not mind the laughter.
Despite the ordeal, Nut stated that she enjoys travelling in China and finds most Chinese people to be friendly, except for the immigration officers.
and this is exactly why updating documents are so important for trans folks, they out us!
ha, the logic is a bit wacky, but I can also see how maybe publishing a book like that might cause a moral panic that could result in regulatory action (and to be fair that's how the FDA was created, after Upton Sinclair's The Jungle resulted in a moral panic)
ugh, I'm trying to find that meme of an anime girl eating pizza captioned with something like "how I eat pizza knowing estrogen sends it to my boobs and butt"
- cucumbers sprinkled with salt and sugar, then soaked in vinegar
- cashew cream was made by blending cashews, a sprinkle of salt, and a few tsp of sherry vinegar to taste
- omelette fillings include cheddar shredded cheez, nutritional yeast, spinach, bell pepper, and black olives
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how do you deal with people who knew you pre-transition but don't recognize you?
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hi, I suspect if I did some searching I could find my answer (so apologies up front for being lazy and not doing enough research up-front 🙊) but I have noticed every time I type : and then start typing the name of an emoji, for example :sob: (i.e. 😭), there is a list of emojis that start to match what I'm typing:
The emojis rarely match the auto-complete I'm expecting (which is based on doing this in other contexts like Slack with standard unicode emojis), and often there are custom emojis in addition to the standard ones that if I accidentally tab and hit enter to accept, results in an embedded image.
Incidentally, my fingers somewhat automatically start to type emojis like :sob: and this auto-complete feature is essentially "broken" for me by the large number of custom image emojis (notice the emoji I'm looking to autocomplete when I type :sob isn't showing up in the top part of the list).
Admittedly this breaks my flow, but I'm not complaining as much as wondering what this custom image emoji feature is, whether it's a Lemmy thing or an instance specific thing, and how much other people use it (do other users like these custom emojis, and their easy / automatic finger flow is accustomed to these options)?
The custom emojis are cute, tho 😄
assuming you can afford a good lawyer, survive with those legal costs in the meantime, and get lucky with a reasonable judge - a lot of ifs, a lot of cracks people fall through