Might be more helpful to actually say in the title that it is Lemmy you're trying to selfhost, this community isn't specific to selfhosting Lemmy.

I tried a bunch of these note taking apps and didn't really get on with any of them. I now use the Vscode/Vscodium extension Foam which essentially gives all the note taking features and graph view in what is already a good text editor.

So long as you are mainly writing notes and don't need the database features that AnyType has or the DataView plug in Obsidian has (though there might be another vscode extension for this - I've never looked), then you'd be fine.

I've ripped them all but have terrible upload speed, once I've worked out a way to put them somewhere (or if anyone volunteers to host) I'll update this comment

Readrops

Not anymore according to the update in the pinned comment

English change bell ringing

Will feddit.nl be updating soon or waiting for 0.18.1?

I'm pretty sure that if you add your family to your Plex Home then they'll get access to Plexamp

System76 laptops I've seen recommended, I'm currently deciding between one of these and a Framework laptop

Looks good but I'll be sticking with vscodium+foam

Sounds like a good update, a couple of days shouldn't matter but I can see both sides to it, people want the latest and greatest but also if there are any issues that's not great as more people migrate to Lemmy

Eh to each their own, I see almost all those as positives. No problems with bookmark manager. Agreed on pocket though.