Is it impossible to have a private community without running your own Lemmy server? Is it impossible to have n private communities without running n Lemmy servers? And to be part of multiple private communities you'd have to have an account on each server?
Is this true?
It would be nice to have a link to some list of expected etiquette. For instance, is it rude to DM people who don't know you? Is there an acceptable way to go about this? Are there guidelines for what deserves a downvote? Some "Welcome to our server" post to get the lay of the land on consensus proper behavior...