I once ghosted a guy after a date because he looked too much like Elon and I couldn’t unsee it.

You can adjust it in settings so it only sends you notifications when someone DMs you or specifically mentions you in can.

Their argument has a lot to do with people not establishing context upfront unlike your example with “someone called”. I can’t count the number of times I’ve had a conversation with someone talking about a non-binary person, only to realize five minutes in they weren’t talking about a group of people. It’s super jarring when it happens.

Well yeah, that’s the whole point. It’s harder to learn another workflow when you’re already in the mindset of the other.

Used to have this as the only rule for my Discord server, and it obviously wasn’t clear enough for people to get.

Mine doesn’t do this, but it does do a few slow spins right at the end so that everything settles to the bottom. Maybe yours is also doing this by waiting?

I logged in once to look up something I had saved, but the mobile site is so irritating to use I gave up.

I constantly say “I'm doing my suduku, okay?” and people just think I’m an idiot who doesn’t know how it’s pronounced. (from The Heat)

Yeah, most of the elevators I encounter are at hotels while traveling, so it’s usually the first place I have a moment to breathe after going non-stop for hours and hours. I’m not practicing karate, I’m trying not to collapse from exhaustion.

I think it might be a better approach to have communities link together and if you post to one, it goes to all of them. However we should probably focus on making sure the basics work correctly first before dreaming big.

Yeah the choice of VPN doesn't really matter here. I would just configure it to not push a default route to cut down on the amount of traffic going through. You could even use something like ZeroTier if you wanted.

I already owned my own home server that I built for running a file server and other random things. Currently all I’m paying for is $2.50/month for a proxy server on Google Cloud so I don’t have to expose my stuff directly to the internet.