[-] kofe@lemmy.world 10 points 17 hours ago

The first panel says men's egos sometimes...

I see no issue, but maybe I'm biased

[-] kofe@lemmy.world 3 points 20 hours ago

Gotcha, I hear you. I didn't mean that seeing the wall without context is normal to have a terror response to, either, but I think we're in agreement otherwise. Tear down the walls by repairing the wall :P

[-] kofe@lemmy.world 0 points 20 hours ago

I hope I wasn't coming across as mocking? On the flip side, we should be able to laugh at ourselves...Some people laugh because they're uncomfortable. If you want us to be empathetic to someone losing their shit for a sec, try to have some empathy for those that it scares. You don't have to witness it for it to have an emotional impact.

[-] kofe@lemmy.world -4 points 20 hours ago

I'd be more forgiving that it's a pretty extreme scenario most people won't experience in their lives, but I do think we have a responsibility to handle our emotions in healthy ways. Punching shit is dangerous. You can hurt yourself, and even if not, it's a signal to me that you are capable of causing harm because you can't control your anger. I'm not sticking around to find out my body may be next.

Keep in mind, anger is often if not usually a secondary emotion to pain, fear, sadness, etc. Anger can be a great motivator, but again, how it's expressed is important. Use your words, find some other action that doesn't scare people (like take boxing classes where that's the point), or process it on your own first.

[-] kofe@lemmy.world 6 points 21 hours ago

I'm concerned Vance will bring people like my dad back in after he finally felt disenfranchised enough to say he won't vote.

[-] kofe@lemmy.world 2 points 21 hours ago

The comparison for forced birthers is a fraction of a percent to the amount of abortions procured year to year. I hate it, but they're at least somewhat logically consistent there. Still reduces the quality of life for those that survive forced pregnancies drastically and risks permanent bodily harm. That's where the hypocrisy shows on how much they value life imo. Raise them to suffer cuz "it's God's plan."

[-] kofe@lemmy.world 2 points 22 hours ago

I'm not sure what you mean.

[-] kofe@lemmy.world 7 points 22 hours ago

"excluding [things I know about], it is literally always [the only other thing I know about.]" Again, I stress fallibility.

[-] kofe@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

More like asking "you think I'm charismatic?"

[-] kofe@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago

Is it normal to you to see people punch walls when they get devastating news?

I'd rather think maybe someone tripped and fell into it if we're looking for charitable ideas.

[-] kofe@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

People seem to love to jump to this assumption without acknowledging any fallibility, when in reality you don't know from just looking at someone. Even if it's a likely reason, it's not the only one. I'm going to at least hope you aren't a doctor based on this single sentence.

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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by kofe@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world

I just want to vent a bit - I started seeing someone a few weeks ago. Old fling that I ran into through some friends that got rekindled, and I was excited that it seemed like more than just casual hookups this time. But there were some yellow flags I ignored that turned out to be red flags, and now I'm feeling frustrated and hurt.

Dude for real dropped the line that men are more "capable" and "logical" on me. That gender studies are "indoctrination." I told him we should probably stop seeing each other if that's really what he thinks. It wouldn't be logical for me to keep seeing someone that thinks lesser of me, now, would it?

I'm grateful to have some guy friends that I turned to after I left, cuz I wanted to go into "fuck all men" mode, but I know it's not true or helpful. Just like there are women out there that have internalized misogyny, there's feminist men, enbies, etc. We're all just people and we're not monoliths beholden to differences in biology. This is just sexist, manosphere bullshit in particular

Anyway. I'm still feeling angry and wanted to put it out there for some support and solidarity. Anyone have a recent win they'd like to share or something?

ETA: Thank you so much for the conversation y'all! I've been trying to keep up but I gotta get some sleep. I'll check in later but hope everyone has a good day. Keep up the empowerment! ๐Ÿ’œ

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submitted 10 months ago by kofe@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I know it's not the most engaging or thought provoking question, but I'm having a bad day and would really like to find a space to vent

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by kofe@lemmy.world to c/videoessays@lemmy.world

I was noot prepared for this intensity

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by kofe@lemmy.world to c/reddit@lemmy.world

Hey y'all, want to give a heads up that I used redact a few days ago to delete all my comments and found the entire history restored today. I've seen a few useful tips that if you're petty enough, start editing and deleting your comments manually so it doesn't get noticed as quickly. I started by viewing my top comments and edited them to say "As a language AI model, I'm beginning to edit all my comments in protest of reddit"

I'm just going to do a little at a time and will check back in after about 12 hours or so to make sure it's not restored then keep going

Obligatory fuck spez

ETA: Thank you @deweydecibel for the explanation! If y'all are using redact, try making sure you're using the one with a 5 second delay

Edit 2: @EnigmaNL also noted the script didn't work for comments in subs that were locked down. I just finished going through mine and can confirm there weren't too many left, so I think that's what the issue was!

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submitted 1 year ago by kofe@lemmy.world to c/cats@sh.itjust.works

Say hi to Frankie ๐Ÿ˜„

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