I second this and wanna add, that it’s also totally cool, to feel like switching into a different body whenever would be neat. Maybe being whomever you want to be whenever feels just right to you.

This is also attainable with outfits though honestly your appearance is completely secondary to how you personally feel about being your self.

Shapeshifters are just awesome characters anyway right?

Looks comfy 🥰

But what about the droid attack on the Wookiees?

WLAN verbunden und Kadsen und Sonne sind die Phasen, die am meisten mit der Realität zu tun haben.

I suppose the best way for queer dating is joining queer (friendly) spaces. And get to know people. Also you could go on fedi (mastodon, misskey) etc and get to know people. And maybe at some point you’ll grow close enough for irl dating with someone. 😊

Always be watchful for scammers, chasers etc.

Mir ging es um die Debatte über das Selbstbestimmungsgesetz.

Hierbei hat Buschmann mehrfach das absurde und transfeindliche Narrativ angeführt, dass Betreiberinnen von Frauensaunas zum Schutz ihrer Kundinnen die Entscheidungshoheit behalten müssten, wer aus ihrer Sicht Frauen sind. Zudem sieht der aktuelle Entwurf vor, dass bei einer Namensänderung alle Strafverfolgungsbehörden darüber informiert werden und diese die Personen überprüfen sollen. Das ist aus meiner Sicht völlig übergriffig und stigmatisierend.

Das Sauna Beispiel ist sehr weit hergeholt. Und Strafverfolgungsbehörden können eine Identifizierung auch über Nachnamen, Geburtsdatum, Wohnort und Ausweisdokumentennummern durchführen.

Die Benachrichtigung der Strafverfolgungsbehörden hat auch historisch einige Brisanz und erinnert an die rosa Listen.

Wow, Buschmann und das Justizministerium können sich nun also Queer- und Frauenfeindlichkeit durch aktives Vorschieben fandenscheiniger Bedenken auf die Fahne schreiben.

Thank you for sharing your current struggles! I feel what you describe by a lot. I actively pushed back against my inner coming out for 2-3 years cause I was so afraid. And now somedays I’m really ok and other days, especially when there are social situations where I’m forced into my old shell, I feel horrible and like nothing will ever get better for me.

So, yeah I think that’s totally normal, also your fears of coming out are super understandable. I’m also afraid of a big coming out, so instead I go slow tiny steps. Wear slight makeup or very casual nail polish when I meet people who I slowly want to unlearn that I’m not the cis person they think I am (and I worked so hard to pretend to myself and everyone else I was).

Also concerning drastic changes, of course this feels like a lot, but we have always been who we are, so maybe these changes are just something to work through at whatever pace is possible right now.

To give you my timeline, I figured out I’m not cis in 2018. I actively ignored that cause it felt threatening to my live’s situs until 2021. I panicked so hard cause I did not understand gender as a spectrum and was also very convinced that medical changes are a must have. Mid 2022 I realised I’m nonbinary and somewhat genderfluid and since then I’m working on accepting myself. And only recently I felt maybe it’s not that big of a deal, cause I’m just me and it’s all gonna be ok.

I think you are on a great path to exploring yourself and I wish you all the best for it!! 💜

Feel free to ask me more questions and sorry for the wall of text.

I don’t know the context of your post, but in the fediverse it is part of the netiquette not to judge other people, especially on such oversimplified terms.

Being obese is often not a great experience. I think being told „you can choose not to be a fat bastard“ is already insulting and also insinuating that this aspect of physical and or mental health is a simple matter of choice, which I find to be quite unbearable and very hurtful.

Please take your anger elsewhere. I don’t know what you might be going through right now, but you must find healthier ways to vent this aggression.

Instead of punishing others for their struggles, we can find healthy ways to support one another here.

Jepp, die Fahrlässigkeit von modern Solutions müsste als DSGVO Verstoß geahndet werden.

Die ursprüngliche Abweisung der Anklage war eine super kompetente Entscheidung die Hoffnung macht.

Diese nun doch zuzulassen ist sinnbildlich wie eine Anklage wegen Körperverletzung bei 1. Hilfe-Maßnahmen.

Was die Staatsanwaltschaft da verzapft ist wirklich bitter. Und die Fa. treibt sich mit dem betreiben der Strafanzeige hoffentlich PR-technisch wohlverdient in den Ruin.

That is quite a lot, and I really feel how all that can drag you down further.

I think a big chunk of the generation of our parents, who always demands that people should have some respect and be decent, have rapidly taken a more than conservative standpoint, indoctrinated by right wing news.

I am nb (but not very visibly) and I’m neither out to my parents nor my parents in law, cause I’m sure they’ll handle it just like your dad.

We obviously disagree on many topics though, so since I got my independence, I reduced contact to them when they constantly overstepped. This worked wonders, since they suddenly realised it’s more important for them to meet up with me/ us than blabbering anti-woke garbage.

Also, venting here and reaching out for support networks is always great when you are down (though all the harder to do, I know).

The political situation in your state is horrible, but we will prevail and things will turn for the better eventually. 💜

And concerning the weight part, I personally love to do martial arts, it’s an easy way to lose weight and gives you a sense of knowing how to defend yourself. I could imagine more queer people need dojos right now, so maybe there is a group to be found or founded already.