Hey folks, hope all are well!! Need some outside perspective on a situation. Your thoughts are appreciated.
Apologies for the wall of text… added background, current state, questions at the end.
Background - I recently met someone at work (last week). They are new, I’ve been there a while. They manage projects, I work in IT. They were running a new project I was part of.
This person sounded really cool just listening to them. Meaning, funny, good personality, smart, etc. After the team meeting, I reached out to let them know I could help, if they had questions. They actually said they did.
That lead to some conversation both work and personal (surface level stuff, e.g. where do you live, how did your get into your line of work, etc.).
That lead to a few more short conversations last week. I also added them on LinkedIn.
Current State - I didn’t ask their relationship status in any conversations. They do make it seem like they are single. Based purely on how they talk about themselves.
Friday, trading messages at work. They say, “if I don’t talk to you have a great weekend”. I reply “same to you, but if you get bored feel free to say hi”.
Sunday they reach out via LinkedIn. We trade a few messages there. One one of which they send me a pic of them and their pet.
In my head I say @$!? it, I’ll give them my number. Proceed to give number. They say “going to shower, will message you when done”. They never message me… wait to see if they do on Monday. Thinking maybe they fell asleep, etc.
Monday… nothing… I was busy and didn’t reach out on LinkedIn. Plus I started thinking maybe they changed their mind about chatting. Maybe there is something else I don’t know about. Maybe cold feet about giving me their number.
Tuesday… at work, nothing from them. I reach out in the afternoon to say hi. Don’t mention anything about the weekend. Ask how their day was, etc.
Response was more personal than I expected. Meaning they called me a pet name, traded messages, were acting “cute” for better way to explain it.
Mentioned if they were free to chat, let me know. Said they “really wanted to” but were busy finishing up stuff before they go on vacation.
Say nothing else, today ends, no message outside of work as of this writing.
Question - am I being played? Meaning is this someone who may be bored, or unhappy in a relationship and me showing some interest is making them appear interested? Is there something else, some new trend I’m not aware of on the internet 🙂
Could I be walking into a trap (e.g. they’re married or significant other) and I’ll start getting threatening texts 🤨
Am I overthinking this and should let it play out more? They will be away all next week on vacation. 🤔
I’m confused Lemmy and don’t have the mental energy / prowess to handle something that’s gonna be bad mojo!! I may not be smart enough to even figure out what’s happening 🙂
Thanks! Me too 😆