geteilt von: https://lemmy.world/post/18499026

https://www.mystateline.com/news/national/almost-half-of-young-men-have-never-approached-a-woman-romantically-study/

“In the entire dataset, 29% of men said they never approached a woman in person before. 27% said it had been more than one year. This was larger for men in the age 18-25 group: 45% had never approached a woman in person,” according to the study.

A majority of single males surveyed reported fear as the main reason they do not approach women for dates in person. Fear of rejection and fear of social consequences were the two most common responses.

The data highlights a growing concern in the United States and abroad — loneliness. A 2023 report from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services found that almost half of U.S. adults report “measurable levels of loneliness.”

It's interesting to say the least. It seems as though the social repercussions and rejection are the most profound reason. While the fear of rejection is easy enough to digest. But I think the fear or social consequences is a relatively new construct.

From what I understand it's the fear of being viewed as a creep to approach a woman out of the blue. Which to me, is reasonable enough. But I don't think I have ever heard my old man or anyone of his generation bringing this to the table.

Yet I do remember asking my friends about picking up hints and whether or not men are really that bad at it. And most them saying the just don't want to risk misinterpreting it.

Perhaps there is an argument to be made that approaching women like this, has fallen out of social fashion. What do you guys think?

p.s. I hope this is casual enough of a conversation. I kinda screwed up my last one, I admit.

I'm actually serious, which button is the right one? Why are there two?

Also should a Pic of a toilet be considered NSFW?

I got annoyed recently when I wanted to leave the house and noticed my bag was half full just with stuff to deal with weather. In Tokyo, I usually carry an umbrella with me, maybe sunscreen, sunglasses, a mini towel etc. Others have fans, "neck fans" (not sure how they are called). Maybe a water bottle also counts.

All of this is "weather stuff" for me. I asked a friend what she carries around, and we started to think about some other categories as well. So I wondered how much of the stuff we carry around is actually about the thing we want to do wherever we go, and how much is just to cope with the environment? Also, I would be curious how this looks like in other places around the world. Things probably vary by gender, age, season as well.

Some categories are:

• weather stuff
• personal hygiene stuff
• safety stuff
• not being annoyed by others stuff
• infrastructure fail stuff (e.g., preparing for when trains get delayed)

Why can't I expand images and videos beyond this arbitrary border?

I use Workman.

EDIT (2024-08-10T19:23Z): I should clarify that I am referring to the layout that you use for a physical computer keyboard, not a mobile/virtual keyboard.

Meme, photo of something, whatever! Bonus points if you're brave enough to share it.

Today was the last day of my employment. I've hit LinkedIn, Indeed, and Glass door. What else should I do?

Let the infodumps begin! 🔔🔔🔔

I am getting tired of Topo Chico’s antics. What are your alternatives that you enjoy?

Americantall.com is where I've been buying from recently. Do you have another option? ' I'm 6'4" and 200 pounds. A typical large is too short. XL and XXL is wider and not longer. I need a place to order a Large X-Long.

Sometimes we come across a random comment and we find it is the most important, urgent, and/or funny thing in the world. Then we forget about it and we move on to the next post. Here is your chance to salvage those.

I'm not against those who work for sex, but the idea to earn for a living doesn't seem nice. IMO, sex should be for 2 people (or more for others who prefer polyamory) who wants to be intimate/romantic with each other. My point is money should not be the purpose.

How could 2FA be disabled if you need 2FA in order to login to disable it and my free OTP+ is biometric protected?

...ideally one that was both genuine and that you had the confidence and self awareness to interpret as kind. And for bonus points, what's one you've given?

I'm thinking back to the guy in group therapy years ago who told me he always thought of people who swore as not knowing any better words, but that I obviously knew better words and just also swore and even used them artistically and that's just really stuck with me. Sometimes I wonder how much of my self esteem has suffered not just because I've been told not to brag, but also because I'm extremely weird so the compliments I do receive often reflect that.

My bonus one (and I'm not sure how well he was able to take it) was that one of my fellow psych nurses was frequently and obviously terrified any time shit hit the fan, but that somehow still he'd never once failed to have my back. He'd be stuttering the whole way through an incident but I'd walk out of the med room with both halves of a B52 and he'd take one of the syringes without a second thought. He was literally the epitome of "courage isn't not being scared, it's being willing to face it." I should find a nice presentation of that quote somewhere to send him because I'm not sure I phrased it well at the time.

New here and not sure where to go. Tell me your favorite sublemmys that make it worth using.

Edit this is awesome thanks everyone!!

I know the points are there and are saved, but why are they not visible on our profile, as a shit poster these points are my applause, my credit, my holy absolutely useless internet points, I love them. So have they be abandoned in the first place?

If I have two Lemmy accounts can I have all of my subscriptions combined so they show up on both?

I don't really need them synced live but I just want to have all subs on both.

I have some subs that are the same on both servers, but also extra subs on both that the other doesn't have.

If this seems like it breaks rule 5, please direct me elsewhere. I figured support@Lemmy.World is just for server issues.

Like, why do you care so much if she's sleeping with a new guy after just divorcing or her coming out or that rich family buying a new mansion? How does that affect your life?

What are the particular tools or features that you must want to see in an app for moderating? Is it different on mobile from desktop? Let me know and I'll compile a list to help mods choose the app best suited to their needs!

Connect for Lemmy is my daily driver, but there aren't mod tools built in. For most of my moderation, it's either Alexandrite or REST calls.

Are there any native apps with good mod tools?

the car models can be whatever, I'm just curious if anyone is dressing up their cheap cars as expensive ones or if this is an industry yet?

is there a legal hurdle?

is there a limit to car decision in general?

is this sort of car case business already a thing?

[deleted]

My experience on this platform has been mixed so far but one thing I've noticed the most is a significant contingent of the user base is really reactionary in their discourse.

This is a very typical exchange I have here :

User: I don't like this color because it's red.

Me: I don't know, looks more like purple to me. What about red is bad?

User: Why don't you fuck yourself in the face you fucking cuntfuck!

Me: OK...

Like, what gives? I don't have this experience on other platforms. I have arguments but never this shutdown meccanism.