childfree

Paywall removed: https://archive.is/x98FV

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/57695912

Fake videos show frustrated, unmarried, childless middle-aged women crying and venting in hospital hallways about their life choices.

What I didn’t expect to find in antinatalism was a complex and rich web of ideas, some contradictory and some complementary, but all based on compassion. Most antinatalists I’ve spoken to and whose work I’ve read share the underlying desire to reduce suffering. To minimise harm and hurt. All human life involves suffering, and all humans cause suffering. You may believe that suffering is outweighed by the joys and experiences of life. You may believe that humans are entitled to kill animals to eat or burn the Earth for profit. Those are normal beliefs. But they aren’t universal

Our society has come a long way in making space for things such as maternal ambivalence and the childfree movement, but those are still frameworks that ask whether or not we want to have children, not whether or not we should.

Yes

The rate of voluntary sterilization among young women jumped abruptly after Dobbs, and there’s no reason to believe it will drop off

Source thread

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/31096693

cross-posted from: https://sh.itjust.works/post/39289533

Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.wtf/post/22048899

An old friend/aquaintance I've not spoken to in a few years popped up recently and we got chatting a little over text. In the few years since we spoke she's had two babies by two different guys. They're ~6 months and ~2-3 years.

She said that we should get coffee and catch up properly, and I was sort of down, although I'm not really that enthusiastic about catching up with someone I've frankly not thought about in a few years. But hey, it's something to do, and it might be interesting. So I suggested a coffee shop near her and asked if she'd be able to get time away from the kids, but she said that no, she'd have to bring the kids along.

I don't want to be a dick but I'm really not interested in sitting in a coffee shop with two babies. They're mostly just going to be the focus of the occasion because they need constant attention, and I don't really like kids in general. And, if they cry or act up and attract attention I will hate that.

AITA? How do I tell her I'm really not interested in sitting with her babies for an afternoon?

Source for the 7% statistic

cross-posted from: https://mander.xyz/post/28051610

Childhood maltreatment often continues from one generation to the next, perpetuating the cycle of abuse and depression. In a bid to promote healthier parent-child relationships, researchers from the University of Fukui compared mothers who engaged in maltreatment with those who did not, revealing that childhood trauma increases emotional empathy and depressive symptoms, raising the risk of abusive parenting. Their findings highlight the need for mental health support and parenting programs to help break this cycle.

A growing number of Latin American women are choosing not to give birth in a radical departure from the traditional family roles that have long dominated in the region. -

I don't have any, I don't want any. But I work with them as part of my job, sometimes all the way down to babies, and damn if I don't love 'em all the same.

I guess it's just nice to have the best of both worlds: the freedom of childfree life and the benefit of being able to play with them, because they are genuinely adorable and fun.

(I realize people probably don't care; I'm mostly posting to post in the name of generating more fediverse content)