I'd go with Arch, or EndeavourOS if installing Arch isn't your idea of fun.
It gets the newest drivers first and the AUR includes basically every software available for Linux.
Go with KDE, since it's much saner than Gnome, and use the proprietary nVidia drivers. Anything else will limit your performance.

Don't worry about sudden breakage, that's a thing of the past. A good practice is to put the following in your .bashrc:
alias update="yay -Pw ; sudo pacman -Syu ; yay -Syu ; sudo find /etc -name *.pac*"
then use the update command to update. yay -Pw shows all new items in the Arch news since your last update. A couple times a year there are messages about updates requiring manual intervention in there.
sudo pacman -Syu ; yay -Syu updates the Arch packages first, then the AUR packages. Seperating these is good in case there are dependency issues. That way, your base system still updates fine, even if the dependencies of an AUR package are out of sync. (This never happened to me in 10 years, but I do it out of principle)
sudo find /etc -name *.pac* lists all config files where there's a new version available, but your old config wasn't overwritten cause you've changed that manually.
(You can get even more fancy with updating your mirrorlist first, always checking for keyring updates first, checking for orphaned or abandoned packages, etc. but lastly, system maintenance can never be fully automated)
(If this seems too complicated, you'll be happier with a different distro)