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this post was submitted on 27 May 2024
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This is why learning how to write/speak for your audience is so helpful. People literally perceive what they expect rather than what exists. If the ideas aren't presented in the way they expect or are beyond the sort of ideas they're used to dealing with, they'll apply their preconceived notions of what they think you would say.
Even if you do make sense to someone with the right expertise or experience, people will apply their worldview to everything. Neurotypical people intuitively pick up on cultural ways of thinking and communicating, while autistic people have to consciously think about it more.
The most useful fixation of mine has been understanding how people think so I can speak to be understood. I'm probably better than average at talking to people with different worldviews as a result.
OK but you'll have to forgive me if the idea of playing the douchebag genie game every time I say something on the Internet doesn't really appeal
Not just every time you talk on the internet, but every time you communicate in general. It becomes more intuitive over time, but it is something I always need to do. I often understand what I'm trying to describe better as a result of trying to translate it. There's satisfaction in challenging myself as well as finally being understood.
However, I sometimes start typing a comment only to give up on the original idea in favor of something short and easy. Sometimes I give up on the comment entirely if it seems like too much effort. Having to explain a second time is more work than trying to get it right the first time. I rarely see info dumping as an option. If I don't care enough to put in effort, then it can't be that important in the first place.
If all else fails, I tell them that they aren't understanding me correctly, but make it clear that I don't feel like talking about it anymore. If a conversation isn't going anywhere, ending it is the best option.