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[–] Num10ck@lemmy.world 23 points 8 months ago (6 children)

Its fascinating to me how wonderful the discussion quality and attitude have remained.. but its weird that the userbase isnt growing. maybe those of you that are lucky enough to have cool people in your lives should mention it?

[–] somnuz@lemm.ee 9 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I don’t have any data to meaningfully back it up but I will trust my gut and the things I have read from people here.

There is some significant amount of users here that fully / mostly abandoned social media and pretty often are in some kind of a post-reddit-lurker limbo, plus their age is around “I have a partner / family / job / hobbies / things in life I care more about than passionately posting / moderating online”.

My blind shot is that this group would be the growing / fresh part of lemmysphere but they just don’t feel the urge to go for another reddit-type experience as most often than not it was a shit show in the worst case and time consuming endless void sprinkled with really mixed quality content in the best case scenario. Plus you can lurk hard here without even making an account, with quite healthy approach, somewhere around “I don’t care about voting or commenting but let’s just check what is happening”.

What I would like to see evolving here is posts lifespans so they could properly aggregate the answers, responses or votes. Something like “follow this post / inform me about new comments”.

[–] PDFuego@lemmy.world 7 points 8 months ago

That perfectly describes me. I don't touch Reddit, got off FB and Instagram years ago, never had Twitter, etc. Lemmy is the only thing I use now, I subscribe to a few dozen communities that get maybe 15 new posts a day combined. If I'm in the mood to waste time on here I'll see the new posts and hide them as I go. When they run out I'm done for the day. I won't act like it's the right move for everyone, but for me personally cutting my social media (or similar) internet usage down to around half an hour a day max has made me a lot happier.

[–] Servais@dormi.zone 3 points 8 months ago

There is some significant amount of users here that fully / mostly abandoned social media and pretty often are in some kind of a post-reddit-lurker limbo, plus their age is around “I have a partner / family / job / hobbies / things in life I care more about than passionately posting / moderating online”.

Probably. I'm always surprised by the lack of activity on !parenting@lemmy.world, but I guess most parents are probably busing actually parenting

[–] martinbasic@lemm.ee 4 points 8 months ago

I recently pinned the Fediverse poster on my memo board. Hope my colleagues will find it interesting and join it.

[–] SorteKanin@feddit.dk 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

its weird that the userbase isnt growing

Who says it isn't? https://feddit.dk/post/5995563

[–] Huschke@programming.dev 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

To be fair, it only recently started growing again.

[–] Servais@dormi.zone 1 points 8 months ago

Active users per day might be a better metrics, users only might have a lot of bots

[–] rar@discuss.online 3 points 8 months ago

Many businesses also shut down not even making it into their first year of operation. We're going slow but steady, improving quality and relying on word of mouth instead of big advertisement campaigns. There are valid criticisms, but we also need to remember we're in this for the long run.

[–] shapis@lemmy.ml 3 points 8 months ago

maybe those of you that are lucky enough to have cool people in your lives should mention it?

Feels like the only two topics that get discussed here are Linux and neurodivergence.

I don't think most people I could suggest this place to would ever enjoy that.

[–] lud@lemm.ee -2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Hell no. It's embarrassing as fuck to recommend Lemmy to anyone you know. It's still fairly shit imo.

[–] ChaoticNeutralCzech@lemmy.one 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I wouldn't say "shit" but rather niche. Most people who would love a Reddit-like place have Reddit and don't hate it enough to switch, especially since we don't have extensive hobby communities with long history.

[–] lud@lemm.ee 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Yeah "shit" is somewhat of an exaggeration.

My problems with Lemmy are mainly:

  • Few users
  • Few communities
  • Few posts
  • Few comments
  • Extremely focused on just a couple of topics like Linux, Communism, Star Trek, LGBTQ (nothing against Linux or LGBTQ though) variation is desperately needed
  • Extremely filter bubbly.
[–] Servais@dormi.zone 1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

variation is desperately needed

I blocked most of those topics, then other stuff starts to appear

[–] businessfish@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

i am curious: since those topics make up such a large portion of the content i see on lemmy, do you find that you get a good number of posts to look through without them? i mostly browse all and find i can get through just about everything i'm interested in clicking on in like 30 minutes per day.

maybe it is just a symptom of how i browse the internet and my semi-niche interests, but i find the non-linux hobby communities here to be rather lacking. i know the solution is to post to them myself and i try to, but frankly i don't have that much to post about. it also takes some willpower to keep posting to a 10 person community and get maybe a couple comments every few posts if i'm lucky, but that also could be that my posts aren't very interesting lol

[–] Servais@dormi.zone 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)
[–] MudSkipperKisser@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I’m so glad to know about the gardening community, I don’t garden but something about it is so peaceful and calming to me

[–] Servais@dormi.zone 2 points 8 months ago

Yes, I enjoy it a lot too!