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This is also how you get people being able to use wedge issue shit like transgender women in sports and "being deeply concerned about protecting children" to allow transphobia to flourish. It sounds like such a good-faith, logical concern rooted in a solid sense of rationality to your average person who knows jack and shit about trans people, so there surely can't be any harmful rhetoric going on behind that, right!? All this and the "scientific" mumbo jumbo you're referring to is combined to make trans people look like a fringe bunch of "crazies" who don't deserve basic human consideration to so-called "normal people."
I hate those two wedge issues. You couldn't engineer better ones if you tried. They fucking work, which is the worst part. My (usually pretty decent) mother, who has two trans children who she loves, started trying to talk to me several months ago about how there might be fairness issues with trans women in sports. It was so hard to maintain my composure and argue her away from that deeply shitty "worry" rather than just yell at her and tell her to never bring it up again, which is what I wanted to do. But, of course, we look like we're overreacting and, yes, crazy, if we say "that's a bullshit unreal worry, never say anything like that in my presence again". It is a bullshit unreal worry, but it sounds just reasonable enough to clueless cis people that we can't dismiss it out of hand. I fucking hate it so, so much.
And, of course, the "worries" around childhood transition perform the same function! Luckily no one in my life is susceptible to that one, but I know a lot of people are. And again here you can't just say "childhood transition is great, shut the fuck up". That's the truth, but it doesn't sound like the truth to your average cis person.
I feel like the childhood transition stuff is a sidestep, a deflection. Toddlers are poking around touchscreen computers before they can talk, that seems like a much more pressing "think of the children" moment. Not that I expect any nation in the english-speaking world to handle that with any sort of thoughtful or measured approach...
I just point out they're OK with childhood transition for cis kids. That sometimes works on liberals at least.
What are you talking about?
Puberty?