IDK what you mean with "speak for yourself" (don't we always speak for ourselves? :S)

Just to clarify, i think it's better to use gender-neutral pronouns when gender is irrelevant, or unknown. And it's easy! I've been doing so writing on English online forums since more 2 decades ago.

But i don't think it's reasonable to get mad at someone, or even attack them, for using male pronouns instead of gender-neutral ones. It doesn't say anything about the person being sexist or hateful. The veeery vast majority of people who do this do it out of ignorance rather than malice. And attacking someone for something they don't even consider as a moral choice —like referring to a generic programmer a "he" instead of "they"— does nothing positive for this world, on the contrary.

Being female requires a society that preserves the freedom to be female and for each generation to define what that means for themselves.

The rights of all are political and need to be at the forefront of politics. The rights of women being threatened politicizes them. The political constitution of the united states chose to clearly define rights that ought to be upheld. We seem to be losing them, as they fall through judicial cracks. They were only ever built by jurisprudence updating interpretations of old text to modern values (e.g. the weakly inferred right to privacy that needs to be more explicit, upon which Roe was founded). Now connotations are being stripped, and it will take political action to restore our rights. The US Constitution is almost 250 years old, and still says enslaved people get 3/5 votes. The 13th amendment says only criminals can be slaves. That means felons should have 3/5 of a vote, not no vote, right? Broken document in vital need of a reassessment of values. It's fallen apart and America needs a new one. It's time for a constitutional convention and for the country to vote on some amendments, or even a new document. A document that ensures free and fair elections, with independent primaries and ranked choice voting. A document that guarantees more explicitly our rights to privacy and to seek medical care. A document that upholds labor rights and reins in greed before it can choke the country with monopolies like Google has with Chromium + solely funding Mozilla. It's time for a new deal with the American people that can survive the courts for more than 80 years because anything we put in the new constitution will be constitutional by definition.

This is a political time. We are all political actors. We define how politics proceeds and decide whose rights are considered.