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Parenting Chat - 9/29 - 10/5
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Uncle Grandpa sounds like a hoot. I'd love to tell him I got my ADHD diagnosis at 28 because the school systems and my parents thought I was just a lazy shithead. Just to see how that conversation unfolds.
Sounds like the classic old man "back in my day... [proceeds to detail a life story that convinces you this guy probably has ADHD/other subject of conversation]"
I really couldn't detect any potential undiagnosed ASD but I could see maybe heavily masked inattentive ADHD. I mostly can only pick up on signs for stuff I have experience with. Maybe there is something else there. But heavily masked ADHD might account for how he had have a witty comment for everything. If I had to guess he was late gen X so there is a big possibility there. He did also go on a unprovoked rant about how "everything is bad for us" after vaping in front of the kids when nicotine/alcohol/other is not permitted around the them. He was like "as long as I got my nicotine I'm good to go" referring to the hike, and holding the vape pen up like it was some ambrosia. The main scout leader told him to put it away, then he proceeded to say how even oxygen is harmful to us. Peak entertainment from a nihilistic, jaded perspective.
Lol probably has a highly accurate and detailed replica of some Midwestern train rail and station from his youth in his basement.
Got mine last year at 34, inattentive type. Never had a sweet tooth at all
Ngl, the sugar narrative grinds my gears. I have ASD but my wife and oldest have ADHD and we are are all suffering. Blaming it on too much sugar or vaccines is fucking bullshit. She has inattentive ADHD too and yeah no, it's definitly not related to sugar. "Oh, you don't have the energy to take a shower or fold laundry all last week? Must be all those Hershey Kisses and soda." She does have a sweet tooth though lol.
It makes no sense at all. Though I have read there's some evidence red dye can make symptoms worse? I don't recall it being particularly damning but enough that I was having our toddler avoid it because we suspect she might have ADHD.
I've heard the red dye claims from the same people that claim random other foodstuff causes hyperactivity or learning disabilities so until I see concrete evidence, I'm gonna ignore it but I guess keep it in mind. Anecdotally, I got my kid a Big Red soda for the ride home this morning and he's done really well today and hasn't spun in our spinny chair incessantly today like he usually does.
Yeah that's totally fair. It's not something I make a big deal of, more just trying not to buy it when I can help it. I've found myself erring on the side of caution more after having kids.
I haven't had a big red in ages! Should just be Big Red 40 I guess, ha. You'd think if it did make the ADHD worse it'd be a strong effect so maybe that's why the evidence is mixed.
Tbh, I grew up around people like him so I got "used" to it. And honestly, he seemed like he means well and he did genuinely help out a ton. He just had that uncle vibe, ya know? It did offend me a bit because I know at least 2 kids there have ADHD, one being my own, and one younger one that was autistic(overheard his mom talking about it because they are having issues with the school system over it). I'm guessing there is maybe 6 more at least that are little undiagnosed NDers.I did mention my autism to a few people but definitely tried to keep it on the downlow.