My local area gatherings were pretty lax, yeah. Crowded, in relatively small spaces, where passive-aggressive "in character" LARPs about how they want to hurt/kill other people present just... happened.

And yes I have played 40k on tables in game shops full of people who were probably chuds, and they kept their damn mouths shut because they just wanted to play and knew they wouldn't be allowed to if they started talking about anything other than the game.

I would have brought my Orks with me to my new home across the country if I knew how different it could have been.