Why The Patriarchy Wants You To Hate Incels (www.everythingishorrible.net)

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[-] Verenata@hexbear.net 10 points 4 days ago

And of those confused young boys only one group choses to blame women and join an extremist group that has killed people because of its views.

That's not normal and it's not something to be treated like it's normal. It's insane.

That is literally perfect thank you <3

[-] vritrahan@lemmy.zip 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I have helped out quite a few younger men who looked up to me and I did "fix" most of them. I can't say how much of that was me versus the maturity that comes with age. There are ones I couldn't, whom I don't talk to anymore and wouldn't try again either. But I do believe that a big chunk, if not the majority, can improve because I've seen it happen myself.

And women can do a lot here if they want. Three girls simultaneously saying "eww" or "that's very uncool" does way more damage to a young man's confidence than you realise. You have to let it cook.

Reactionary ideologies like these prey on the vulnerable. And we cannot just abandon all vulnerable. They can be communism's biggest allies because they are usually the most exploited.

[-] Verenata@hexbear.net 9 points 4 days ago

Well that's wholesome but it's not your job and also are they addressing how they view women? It's okay to deprogram as an incel but if you haven't addressed the subconscious or conscious misogyny that lead to that extremism then it's a plaster on a wound, not a cure i feel.

Dude we have tried, I can't speak for anyone else but I didn't abandon the men in group because they were incels, we fought to reign in their shit, we educated them on what women actually look for, we gave them everything other men in this chat have claimed will help incels and from experience it never ever works because when someone is in an ideology that blames women they inherently don't trust us/value us/value our opinion because they are already blaming us.

In fact trying to give incels a chance is what lead to several of my friends being stalked, harassed and bullied and that's not discussing my own experience.

In the end someone in this thread literally suggested the idea of sex coaches for incels, that's insane. That is a disconnect that I can't begin to discuss. We do not need comfort women for incels to stop being hateful.