When I was fresh out of highschool there was an incel in my circle. Everyday he was around he'd spend at least 10 minutes straight talking about how girls like me never talk guys like him because he's too nice. He'd list all the nice things he's ever done for everyone. The whole time, he would talk in the most fragile sad voice he could manage, pretending he was on the edge of bursting into tears. He would even stick out and quiver his bottom lip. "I'm one of the NICEST people ANYONE could EVER meet!," he'd whimper while fake crying, never producing actual tears. I can't believe I talked to that guy, I didn't know any better.

Word is he now a r*pist.

EDIT: And he still thinks he's one of the most incredible and nicest humans in history. Someone says he claims it was sex because she was supposed to just have sex with him. So he's rationalizing if he takes what he thinks he deserves, non-consent has the same result, non-consent is sex to him.

A different woman told me she didn't realize she got assaulted when she was younger because she thought P in the V is what girlfriends are supposed to do. Wether they want to or not. This is a deeply ingrained patriarchal belief across a lot of society. And incels can take part in this belief.