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They used to refer to women with erect nipples appearing through their blouses as having their high beams on, because the old-style floor switch for the high beams was a little cylinder that resembled an erect nipple.
You went all out and I love you for it.
yea not sure I vibe with that lol
Thank you. I’ve been told “your headlights are on” and it’s a pointless and embarrassing thing to say to someone. Nipples get hard in the cold, they get hard from friction against fabric (note to those who need to hear it: NO, HARD NIPPLES DO NOT MEAN AROUSAL I’ve met men in their 30s that need to be told that, so let’s nip that rumor in the bud right now… pun partially-intended.)
The point is, it’s automatic and involuntary, so calling attention to it (even as a quiet aside) is beyond useless. I hope more people are like you, because personally I can’t wait for such “headlights” comments to end.
That's awful - I'm sorry you had to experience that.
Yea absolutely, it's just a normal bodily reaction. I'd be lying if I said I don't notice it when women/female-presenting people don't wear a bra, but there really is nothing to it. I moreso welcome it because I feel like it's a way for them to reclaim the stigmatisation that comes with "revealing" their bodies. Of course without blatantly pointing to it - who am I to comment such a thing?
Thank you, I'm trying my best :). I guess such comments and analogies are a product of their time and should be left there. I feel like we've made so much progress collectively as a society, with exceptions proving the rule, that such comments, derogatory or demeaning language in general, don't usually show up that much in daily conversation and shouldn't overall. Then again, my view is likely skewed because I'm barely around men and most people I am around are also very much left-leaning just like I am, so the language we use is very considerate and thought out, if that makes sense.
Now that I talk of it, a thing that's been grinding my gears recently is that so many people on here seem to be ok with using the r-word in regular conversation. "R-word" this and "that's so r-word of you" that - like, why? It's just so unnecessary. Same goes for the f-word (gay slur). I thought we've been past this already?
That bothers me too. Unlike some of the nonsense that’s becoming common here lately, the R-word slurs have been going on since before the past few waves of Redditors arrived - it’s homegrown ableism farmed right here on Lemmy.
I appreciate all the rest of your comment too. I am on a short break at work and can’t respond to all of it, but I will wanted to say that I’m glad to hear your input.
No worries. Much love 💜