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[cw: body shaming maybe] How do you talk to your friends who are worried about their body shape (hexbear.net)
submitted 10 months ago by ButtBidet@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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Friends sometimes complain that they're too big, too short, too tall, etc. I think they're all fine, and want to let them know that. My problem is that I'm a middle aged guy and and I don't want to give off any whiff that I'm flirting with anyone. I just want to tell people that they're perfect and good the way they are. Are there safe ways to say it?

I feel like this is a thing that easier to do if you're a woman? (sorry if I'm wrong)

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 12 points 10 months ago

Imo, if youre going to do this, its important to not invalidate that we are punished for having socially undesireable bodies, from financial punishment, to direct mockery, etc. Whatever you say to someone has to not invalidate that reality, or youll come across as an asshole who doesnt understand the root (or one of the roots) of the issue.