I know it's late and isn't still May 19 for everyone but it still is for me where I am. Hopefully it is for you too.
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Some time ago, I wrote an article on My blog, designed to be read by cis-agender people who feel like My mum does. Since then I've shown it to many others, and it is My hope that it has saved or will save a trans person's life one day.
I'm a politician. My method is to use words to make the world a better place. And if the words don't exist, I invent them. If the words we have are constraining people's thought, I deconstruct them. A good politician is an engineer of social constructs.
The question of how many cis people have a gender is an interesting one. But I'm not sure how much good that one number can do. Once we have the number, we still need activists to spread the word. We still have the same steps in front of us to educate the populace and build a better social reality.
And transphobic cis-agender people aren't My passion. They're not the biggest problem I see affecting trans people. The biggest problem I see affecting trans people is the desire for objective truth.
I don't think objective truth exists. I think consensus reality is a social construct. I'm a postmodernist. But more than that, I think the pursuit of objective truth is dangerous. White culture teaches us to seek out The Answer to any question, which can be verified independent of anyone's feelings. To be impartial, to reach conclusions without a perspective of our own.
And I think that's dangerous. I used to think that way, and I was miserable. I thought the question "what gender am I?" had an objective answer, and it was the one My parents and My teachers and My doctors said. But I was wrong. My life finally, truly started, and I first became truly happy, when a bunch of memes on Reddit said "if you want to be a woman, you can just do that." The notion that I can just do the things I want, and I don't have to find an objective reason for My actions, has transformed My life.
And it's not just about being trans. Doing what I want lead Me to realise I'm otherkin and embrace My species. It lead Me to plurality and meeting the other beings inside My head. It brought Me to the creatures I wanted to make a family with. All of it, unreal. Unconforming to anyone's standard of objective reality.
And I still see transphobic people saying "Facts don't care about your feelings." Well fuck you, objective facts don't exist. We should be building a collective understanding of the world starting from our feelings.
It shows that you're a politician, that was a lot of words.