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At least for a wedding, hypothetically the cost of your gift is often around the cost of your attendance. Like you're basically paying to attend an expensive party with an open bar and a (hopefully) great meal.
But yeah, attending the Bachelorette and shower and wedding, some have a lingerie party.. it's a lot. A lot of our friends wanted out of town trips and multiple day events for their bachelor/ Bachelorette. It was nuts. We had a shared bachelor/ Bachelorette and it was basically a bar crawl. Our buddy expected everyone to pay for a week in New Orleans with plane tickets, hotels, daily big meals. Then a destination wedding in Vegas. We are not a wealthy friend group.
That whole thing is crazy to me, there were 6 people at my wedding and it was fantastic - luxurious, intimate, and loads of fun. And it cost hardly anything, lol