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I'm half way between very annoyed and concerned
I've been really poorly this week and went to bed early
Husband found a stranger in our house, came in thru front door, and husband has not taken this seriously.
just a weird lost older teen in pjs, maybe ,
finally convinced husband this is a police matter
and this is the second call to police. First call and the guy has come back
yeah, i'm a little creeped and concerned
What the actual fuck is your husband's reaction.
How bizarre. Is husband trying not to stress out because he knows you already have enough on your plate?
Hugs 🫂
That reaction seems very, very strange. How was he not more concerned?!
That is so frightening!! ! How did he get in, was door unlocked? First thing is safety, ie make sure it can’t happen again, lock doors. Ask husband why he’s not bothered? Maybe he genuinely believed the kids story? But honestly I don’t know any teenager that ‘accidentally’ walks into the wrong house. Was probably trying to rob the place and then decided to back down and made up an excuse when confronted by an older male. Had you been in the house by yourself, who knows maybe the intruder would have calculated differently. You did the right thing calling the police. I’m so sorry this happened, sounds awful.
Security cameras and an alarm systems methinks, that's terrifying! Nightmare fuel shit.
You know your husband better than us (obviously), but from my experience with my feminist partner, these types of serious conversations with men, even they need to be told how serious this is. Like, emphasise the concern, how important it is, how deeply afraid/concerned/upset you are. And lay out what you would like him to do. Sometimes they need to be told what the solution is, so they can physically act. And make it a Thing. Sit him down, tell him you "need to talk about something extremely important to me", that you require his full, undivided attention in this matter.
It may help to write down how you're feeling. I know it's a lot of mental workload to take on, when you're already under so much stress right now. And I'm definitely not saying this is going to fix anything, as I said I don't know your husband from a bar of soap.
I'm so sorry you've experienced this, sending you all my love
Thanks.
Police came and hopefully it's all sorted now
To me finding a stranger in the house is hugely concerning! How is he getting in? I mean, is the door locked? Definitely the police should be involved! If this kid has a carer then they need to know he's wandering too.
Thanks. I was definitely worried.